I just will never grasp the people who are fixated in targeting and being in relationships with people who are already taken. I'm not talking to the men and women who have been tricked or lied too; you are partly excused. I say partly excused because the truth eventually comes out and you stay? That is another blog post for another day.

I just want to figure out though why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who is already married or already in a committed relationship. I understand the relationship anxious, who have psyched themselves into believing that it is better to be with someone who is emotionally invested with someone else, so that you can get yours and send them home, but I'm concerned for the men and women who have been tricked into believing that they will leave their spouse for YOU!!!

Why put yourself through that level of pain and anguish? RELATIONSHIPS are already tumultuous enough between two people! Why on earth would you want to subject yourself to such unnecessary emotional stress and destruction? You honestly believe that you matter to them? It is possible I am being judgmental, cynical, and downright pessimistic, but you have to forgive me on this one. I'm tired of seeing you in fairy tale world; saying things like, "she loves me," or "he is just putting on an act he really hates her," or "he/she will leave them for me."

It isn't going to happen and if it does they will leave them for someone else and STILL make you the OTHER PERSON!

I have a friend who would say this to you, "Accept your position as the jump off and stop trying to be the wife," Tough but true.

I will say this though, "You don't want to be at the bottom of the stable go find your own rider."

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So I am truly convinced that there is something wrong with me. It is unbelievable how unstable my heart and mind can be.

On one side I'm really happy, especially since I'm about to see my girl Jill Scott in concert. The other side I feel like I want to crawl in a hole and just isolate for eternity.

This is my life on a daily basis.

So...

There are just some things that are hard to get over despite your best efforts; losing a loved one, losing a relationship, losing a friendship, losing a lot of friendships, and other losses that I could list. I think that you fix your mind to believe that you're over the hurt or pain of something until nostalgia hits you or you travel onto a website or web page, a book, a picture, facebook post, etc; then you're spiraling back into what you believe you left behind.

I can never imagine just getting over these things and although I have found away to cope, to ignore, or to breathe; there is just some piece of your heart that will be fixated on the pain. I wish that everything would be OK and everything was perfect, but the reality is it won't be. You move on, they move on, things move on, people move on; so we just need to get over it. Just get over it right?

This is just a quick comment I posted on my last post in response to a reader who stated that I should read the God Delusion. I know most people don't go back and read comments so I wanted to share and get your thoughts.

"I would have to say that I don't look at faith the way you do and that is OK. I love to pray and I enjoy having a conversation with God. Although you say there is no God, I believe there is and I believe that He loves us all; whether we believe in Him or we believe He is a delusion. I believe that we all have our moments of doubts because of the unknown or that it is so hard to believe or have faith in someone we can't see or feel, but that is just a defense mechanism and fear. If people never ventured out into the unknown we wouldn't have reached the moon, or discovered how to operate on a damaged heart or brain, discovered technology, etc. So I challenge you to try the unknown, try something that doesn't make sense, and see the results. Believing in Jesus for me has been AMAZING!!!!"

So journal it has been an amazing few months; aside from all the wedding planning, working like a slave, building a continuous relationship with the woman I love, and just trying to enjoy life. No one told me that wedding planning would be this difficult. I just can't wait to be married and truly enjoy being married to an amazing woman.

All of this change has had me thinking journal about what I want to do with my life. I am so tired of holding myself back and this is why I am ready to make some serious moves. I truly want to save the relationships and marriages of everyone I can. I want to do that through a number of things; books, seminars, blogging, websites, speaking; I want to do this because I believe in relationships. I also want to do this because I can't keep sitting on the gifts that God has given me. I surely can't keep letting all that extra money go away because I won't step out on faith.

So to all that read this be on the look out for what the jwriter will be bringing your way. Pray for my success and pray that I don't give up.

Also pray for my wedding and for the success of my marriage. I am very much in love.

So...