Marriage is a journey. This is one journey that I have been both happy and frightened to be on. I think the unknown has been the hardest thing for me to face. I have however been trying to read up on how to be more romantic, being more prayerful concerning my marriage, learning to shut up and listen to my wife more, and reading helpful blogs like andadamkneweve.blogspot.com; all these things have helped me learn that marriage takes work and intentional work.
I wanted to give both husbands and wives some awareness of what could be going on in their homes.
A lot of times we are so used to the routine, that we miss out on the important things. Husbands, one of the things I believe we need to be aware of is how our wives express their level of happiness with us. It isn't nearly ever just seeing her smile or bubbly, anyone can "act" that out or pretend; a happy wife I feel makes life in the home so much better. It could be just my home and my marriage, but I have heard that if the wife is happy everyone is happy.
What are some signs that you have a happy wife? Well I have identified five signs of a happy wife that you can attest to whether you agree or disagree with what I have found:
1. A Happy Wife Wants You To Come Home.
2. A Happy Wife Wants To Talk With You And Is Very Excited To Do It.
3. A Happy Wife Puts Love In The Meals She Makes For You.
4. A Happy Wife Is Happy To Have SEX and Is Conscious of It.
5. A Happy Wife Supports You and Your Dreams.
A happy wife wants you to come home is probably one of the most empowering and encouraging thing that a husband can experience. If we are out trying to be a good provider, working hard, and we come home; there is nothing more exciting to know that our wives are home waiting or on their way home with ENTHUSIASM. She wants you to be in her SPACE. She wants to get lost in your aura, breathe the same air that you breathe. A happy wife forgets (for the most part) about her stressful day, the craziness of life or the kids, and is relieved and secure when you are home. You can tell that she is happy you're home by the way she embraces you, or kisses you. She has set the atmosphere of the home you share for your arrival. Or that she simply asks you "how was your day honey," and it is sincere and you can feel the care and concern emanating from her. This is what we work our 9 to 5 for, to not only provide for our families, but to be greeted with care, to be loved, and yes to be secure in knowing our wives want to be around us. I get text messages from my wife saying, "I miss you and I can't wait for you to get home," when it is my late days at work. This is a vital sign in my opinion that your wife is happy.
A happy wife wants to talk to you and is excited to do it. I know some husbands might feel like they want their wives to be quiet. Let me tell you that a sure sign that your wife may not be pleased with you or the relationship is when she is quiet or she says, "I have nothing to say," or "nothing is wrong," this right here is a clear indication that husband and wife need to sit down and have a conversation. Remember husbands, we are not just looking for our wives to merely talk to us, but to be enthusiastic or excited to do so. We can make this an even greater experience if we are taking the time to listen; to listen attentively and actively to our wives when they speak. The more we listen husbands, and we are interested in what they are saying, the more she will be excited to talk to us. You get a true temperature of the house through your wives verbal and nonverbal cues. Most of us men do not always catch the nonverbal cues, so we have to be more aware of what she is saying verbally. Half of the battles we have to fight in our marriages could be avoided if we just listened more. If your wife is talking to you or wants to talk to you, and 65 percent or more of the content is random things, family things, happy things, or things that interest her; there is a good chance that your wife is happy and you have something to do with it.
A happy wife puts love in the meals she makes for you. If your wife can cook or at least boil some water, you better believe that she is happy when she puts love, thoughtfulness, care, and concern into the food you eat; what you put into your body, your overall health, and does it with enthusiasm. When someone puts love into the food they cook YOU CAN TASTE IT. It is a meal that satisfies you on all levels. She is happy to cook your food, she doesn't throw the plate on the table in front of you, she doesn't leave your food cold and lonely for you when you get home, she makes a meal and she loves to do it for you. Even if your wife does not cook or ladies you can't cook, you put thought and care into what you order, or you hire a chef, or you take him to the best restaurant. I don't care how she does it, you know you're wife is happy when she puts love, thought, concern, and care into the food you eat.
This probably should have went first (laughing loudly), but although it is number four on the list; this is very important. You know you have a happy wife when she WANTS TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU and she is CONSCIOUSLY PARTICIPATING. No one wants a sexless marriage (I should hope you don't want it.) And I bet it is safe for me to say husbands that you don't want sex when your wife is not into it or appears to be in another universe while you two are getting it on. I believe a healthy sex life is vital to a happy, healthy, and heavenly marriage. Even if it isn't every night or three times a week, at the very least both partners should be a part of the sexual experience, but husbands you definitely want your wife to be present and pleased. If you are not getting none or at least a few favors from your wife, it may be time to have a conversation. Ask your wife how she is feeling, if she is experiencing any changes on a hormonal level; does she need more romance, intimacy, foreplay (include lots of foreplay please), does she need more help with the kids; is work stressful, does she need a relaxing candle lit bath; whatever you don't ignore this and don't just sit around and wait for things to happen. Be proactive husbands, but also be humble and willing to talk about what the issue may be. Seriously healthy sex from a willing and enthusiastic spouse will make sex awesome and the experience it is meant to be. We all (man and woman) often think that sex is just physical, but I can tell you this it is mental, emotional, and most of all spiritual. And having an holistic climatic experience will make both people want to have that awesome experience over and over and over and over and over again. Happy wife equals a wife that wants to have sex with you and actively and honestly participates.
A happy wife supports you and your dreams. This is simple enough and doesn't need a long paragraph. A wife is meant to be your help meet. Your other whole half and with that comes the empowerment and encouragement you need to motivate yourself to reach your goals. A happy wife will do this without you asking and she won't even need to be present for you to feel it.
If you are missing these signs or feel like your wife are doing these things as a chore; it is time to evaluate your marital relationship and ask your wife how you both as a couple can change the weather in your home.
Marriage takes work, but most of the work can be fun and exciting.
I wanted to give both husbands and wives some awareness of what could be going on in their homes.
A lot of times we are so used to the routine, that we miss out on the important things. Husbands, one of the things I believe we need to be aware of is how our wives express their level of happiness with us. It isn't nearly ever just seeing her smile or bubbly, anyone can "act" that out or pretend; a happy wife I feel makes life in the home so much better. It could be just my home and my marriage, but I have heard that if the wife is happy everyone is happy.
What are some signs that you have a happy wife? Well I have identified five signs of a happy wife that you can attest to whether you agree or disagree with what I have found:
1. A Happy Wife Wants You To Come Home.
2. A Happy Wife Wants To Talk With You And Is Very Excited To Do It.
3. A Happy Wife Puts Love In The Meals She Makes For You.
4. A Happy Wife Is Happy To Have SEX and Is Conscious of It.
5. A Happy Wife Supports You and Your Dreams.
A happy wife wants you to come home is probably one of the most empowering and encouraging thing that a husband can experience. If we are out trying to be a good provider, working hard, and we come home; there is nothing more exciting to know that our wives are home waiting or on their way home with ENTHUSIASM. She wants you to be in her SPACE. She wants to get lost in your aura, breathe the same air that you breathe. A happy wife forgets (for the most part) about her stressful day, the craziness of life or the kids, and is relieved and secure when you are home. You can tell that she is happy you're home by the way she embraces you, or kisses you. She has set the atmosphere of the home you share for your arrival. Or that she simply asks you "how was your day honey," and it is sincere and you can feel the care and concern emanating from her. This is what we work our 9 to 5 for, to not only provide for our families, but to be greeted with care, to be loved, and yes to be secure in knowing our wives want to be around us. I get text messages from my wife saying, "I miss you and I can't wait for you to get home," when it is my late days at work. This is a vital sign in my opinion that your wife is happy.
A happy wife wants to talk to you and is excited to do it. I know some husbands might feel like they want their wives to be quiet. Let me tell you that a sure sign that your wife may not be pleased with you or the relationship is when she is quiet or she says, "I have nothing to say," or "nothing is wrong," this right here is a clear indication that husband and wife need to sit down and have a conversation. Remember husbands, we are not just looking for our wives to merely talk to us, but to be enthusiastic or excited to do so. We can make this an even greater experience if we are taking the time to listen; to listen attentively and actively to our wives when they speak. The more we listen husbands, and we are interested in what they are saying, the more she will be excited to talk to us. You get a true temperature of the house through your wives verbal and nonverbal cues. Most of us men do not always catch the nonverbal cues, so we have to be more aware of what she is saying verbally. Half of the battles we have to fight in our marriages could be avoided if we just listened more. If your wife is talking to you or wants to talk to you, and 65 percent or more of the content is random things, family things, happy things, or things that interest her; there is a good chance that your wife is happy and you have something to do with it.
A happy wife puts love in the meals she makes for you. If your wife can cook or at least boil some water, you better believe that she is happy when she puts love, thoughtfulness, care, and concern into the food you eat; what you put into your body, your overall health, and does it with enthusiasm. When someone puts love into the food they cook YOU CAN TASTE IT. It is a meal that satisfies you on all levels. She is happy to cook your food, she doesn't throw the plate on the table in front of you, she doesn't leave your food cold and lonely for you when you get home, she makes a meal and she loves to do it for you. Even if your wife does not cook or ladies you can't cook, you put thought and care into what you order, or you hire a chef, or you take him to the best restaurant. I don't care how she does it, you know you're wife is happy when she puts love, thought, concern, and care into the food you eat.
This probably should have went first (laughing loudly), but although it is number four on the list; this is very important. You know you have a happy wife when she WANTS TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU and she is CONSCIOUSLY PARTICIPATING. No one wants a sexless marriage (I should hope you don't want it.) And I bet it is safe for me to say husbands that you don't want sex when your wife is not into it or appears to be in another universe while you two are getting it on. I believe a healthy sex life is vital to a happy, healthy, and heavenly marriage. Even if it isn't every night or three times a week, at the very least both partners should be a part of the sexual experience, but husbands you definitely want your wife to be present and pleased. If you are not getting none or at least a few favors from your wife, it may be time to have a conversation. Ask your wife how she is feeling, if she is experiencing any changes on a hormonal level; does she need more romance, intimacy, foreplay (include lots of foreplay please), does she need more help with the kids; is work stressful, does she need a relaxing candle lit bath; whatever you don't ignore this and don't just sit around and wait for things to happen. Be proactive husbands, but also be humble and willing to talk about what the issue may be. Seriously healthy sex from a willing and enthusiastic spouse will make sex awesome and the experience it is meant to be. We all (man and woman) often think that sex is just physical, but I can tell you this it is mental, emotional, and most of all spiritual. And having an holistic climatic experience will make both people want to have that awesome experience over and over and over and over and over again. Happy wife equals a wife that wants to have sex with you and actively and honestly participates.
A happy wife supports you and your dreams. This is simple enough and doesn't need a long paragraph. A wife is meant to be your help meet. Your other whole half and with that comes the empowerment and encouragement you need to motivate yourself to reach your goals. A happy wife will do this without you asking and she won't even need to be present for you to feel it.
If you are missing these signs or feel like your wife are doing these things as a chore; it is time to evaluate your marital relationship and ask your wife how you both as a couple can change the weather in your home.
Marriage takes work, but most of the work can be fun and exciting.
