I believe that rejection is apart of life. That rejection is as natural to a relationship as attraction is. I feel that even if a person is attracted to you and has some feelings for you; that some part of them you still reject, and some part of you they still reject. I don't know, but I do know that we can't spend our lives afraid of rejection and we sometimes have to take risks in order to obtain love.

Even the greatest person who showed the greatest of love (Jesus Christ) faced rejection! Yet He continued to give His love unselfishly.

I've learned that rejection is apart of life and that everyone won't love you like you love them.

Can love exist without rejection? You tell me...

I saw it!!! I never thought I would see it. Last night I saw one of the greatest speeches in the world!!! Tonight I saw history being created. I know he said that the presidential race wasn't about him, but I have to say to see a Black man running for president in America is a very powerful event indeed. I'm proud of this Historic moment not just for African Americans, or Black Americans, but for the people who live and breathe in the U.S.A.!!! I'm proud!!! Change must occur for us to grow and become stronger!!!

Thank You Obama for stepping up to take the challenge.

Has anyone ever been in the friend zone, but wanted it to be more?

Well readers and fellow love crusaders I have. And you know what the ironic thing is? I now follow a dating principle or philosophy that says, "you should be friends with someone first before going into a relationship. " Wow isn't that funny???

Well I do believe you should be friends with someone before entering a relationship with them. I feel that it is the one time where two people are absolutely honest with each other. When you're dating someone you only show them the part of you that they are attracted to, or the part that you want them to see. If your friends though you show them everything and you share stuff with them. Isn't that a relationship worth building on?

But here's the snag. When is it the right time to tell them how you really feel, if they will share those same feelings, and how do you keep the friendship you built from being damaged.

WHY??? Why is the cycle of romantic relationships so difficult? Why do we crave such a confusing and possibly deadly poison? Why is love and relationships bittersweet?

And if you're in the friend zone how do you leave it? Is it possible to leave the friend zone?

So I just spent the whole summer trying to avoid lines at the financial aid department at my school and no one wanted to help. Now they're telling me that I may not be able to receive aid for school. I've prayed and I trust God, but I'm angry that no one really seems to want to help. I wanted to come back to school and not worry about these issues, but here am I!!! The office closed at 3, but I was on this crazy metro bus that was taking forever to get to the station!!! Well no since of complaining; I'll just get up in the morning and try again.

So today I cooked my very first omelet and it was GOOD!!! I didn't think I could make it. I mean I can fry eggs and scramble them, but never have I made an omelet. It was so good. I put some hot sauce and ketchup on it and sat in front of a really great movie. Dan in Real Life was a great movie. Although it made me wish that you found love in that way. It never happens like that in real life or does it? Maybe it does and I'm just immune to finding love in that way...

She said that she liked me. No she confessed that she was in love with me and I was her one. I fell for it. Well that's how I want to feel. She was honest with me about being confused about her feelings for me, but then at the same time I've heard it all before.

They always say I'm a good guy or no here's my favorite line: "You're the right one just not right now," What the heck is that about!??! But I haven't hit the big one: "I'm interested in this guy and he reminds me so much of you," Are you kidding me? These are the lines that get thrown to me. I wonder if it is just me or has any other guy out there heard these lines before.

She told me she loved me and yet I'm no where near being her love...

I'm in a three way and can't decide where to go
One's love is unconditional
The other is only for a moment
And one has me going crazy like I've never known.

I've tasted the bittersweet love, it's intoxicating.
I inhaled the fairytale love, and it whisked me away to a world unknown.
I've been infected by the love I need, but I run from it because it's too much.

Why can't I have it all?
Be selfish and experience all three, at the expense of their feelings
as mine are fully satisfied.

Indulge in the pleasure that all their love brings...
beyond the physical...powerful (1)
emotionally suitable...indescribable (2)
exceptionally satisfying to the eye...beautiful (3)

Confused because I can't have all three...

You know life will make you cynical. I mean you watch movies and you see that two people are "made" for each other...they have butterflies and all emotional for one another. You see this and you wonder why it doesn't happen in your own life! If I'm the only one that has ever felt that way please feel free to leave me a comment to counter what I'm about to say: "THAT'S NOT REAL!!!!" Now I'm not saying that you can't fall for someone or that God doesn't have someone for you, but I'm saying that Love for a person isn't based on your emotions. (Got that from P.R. and the LF crew)

It's true though; your emotions and feelings will always change. And we can't keep dating and getting in relationships with people who we are "feeling" at the moment, because when we stop "feeling" them or we "Love them, but we're not in Love with them" anymore we've just wasted their time and our own time, and we may have missed the right one .

I want to throw out 4 points that were thrown out to me: 1. Honor your relationship with God First!!! (Love the One Being in this world that Has always been faithful and committed to you) 2. Be content in your singleness! (I'm not telling you to stop wanting to be married or have that desire, but just enjoy where God has you and ask Him to prepare you for where He wants you to be) 3. Stop Dating without a Purpose!!! (Stop dating random people and being with people because you're attracted to them!!!! Just because you're attracted to someone doesn't mean you have to DATE THEM! Get to know the person FIRST!!! Men are going to always be attracted to females and Females are going to be attracted to males, even after you get married, but that doesn't mean you have to date them or have sex with them. 4. Be friends, Have Friends, Live life with your friends!!! (That's simple... you get to know what a person is all about by getting to know them and seeing if they can handle one of the most simple, yet powerful relationship (besides knowing Christ) in the world and that's friendship. If there's a vibe with that friend and you want it to go somewhere...

Take a chance and tell them how you feel...And if it doesn't work out and you did it God's way you will still have your friendship... And that's what matters. (Thank You Jesus)(Thank You Ms. P.R.)

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So I've recently discovered through some lines in a play that some men maybe created to be bad boyfriends, but great husbands. I've also discovered that this could be the reason why I've been so unsuccessful in relationships myself. I've had two solid relationships; where it was clearly established that I was their "boyfriend" and they were my "girlfriend". Four relationships where we have been friends for more than three years, there was a mutual attraction, but I wasn't the man they wanted "right now", or it was just left ambiguous. And countless dates that ended up being a waste of my time or theirs; it depends on whose perspective you're looking into. You maybe asking why I wrote this? It's simple...

I want to know if you believe that some people are born to be boyfriends and/or girlfriends and if others are born to be husbands/wives?

If this is true I wish someone would stamp that on our foreheads when we are first born. LOL