I have a simple answer to this question: The reason why men cheat is not because it is in their nature or that they are sex maniacs, no they cheat because they're allowed to. Plain and simple. Yes it is wrong, yeah you shouldn't break your promises, yeah keep your thing in your pants; all of that is true, but honestly like a lot of things in life if men weren't allowed to cheat, they wouldn't. I could give a whole list of biological or psychological reasons to why men cheat, but the answer really lies in that they are allowed to. I'm not down playing cheating, nor am I taking the responsibility off of men who cheat: Wrong is wrong and right is right, but honestly it all dates back to when women (married women) would allow their man to cheat and be OK with it as long as he didn't bring it home. And then you had women that said it's OK for you to sleep around just as long as you are honest with me and you tell me about the indiscretion.
Finally you take them back time and time again. I'm all for forgiveness and moving forward, but if you are with a man who cheated on his woman to be with you, what makes you think he's not going or isn't capable of doing the same to you? Or you see the signs and choose to ignore them. Whatever it is if ladies stop allowing it or stop being apart of it men (in my opinion) wouldn't cheat. That's just what I think. You let me know....
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You are right JWriter. They only do what you will allow them to do. If you put your foot down and let them know your limits a lot of the time they will stay within them. Men, women, and children all know when you really "Mean It". As I woman I know that when my husband does something and I forgive him he thinks it is fine to do it again all he has to do is apologize..... It is not a man or woman thing it is a know your limits thing.
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Joseph,I totally agree with you. The problem with the acceptance in a cheating man is that if you as a woman won't accept the behavior then someone else will. Therefore, that doesn't make you anymore special to the cheating man. He can just go on to the next one and so on that accept his infidelity and turn a blind eye to it.
Why men cheat is a good question and it probably has to do with history, religion and the fact that they are allowed to cheat. For example in some religions like the Islamic religion, the men allowed to have many wives. Also in bibical times a man could have other woman beside his wife. Some men view this as acceptable and use it as the foundation to prove that it is ok to cheat. this is due to the fact that they grew up around cheating and cheating was seen as eight and acceptable. Howeveri I think people cheat in general based on lust or desire. For some people the things we are not suppose to have or they can't have looks so good to them. In some cases when you can't have something you want it more. Then they are the cases where people live for hype or danger. In other words they get off on having this double life and the anticipation if they will or will not get caught. In some cases we wonder why a man who has a good mate go out and cheat and then beg to be taken back. I guess cheating can become some type of addiction.
I think both men and women cheat because of something inside of themselves. Not because there is something lacking in the relationship. Of course there are times when one will cheat because the other one is cheating and it becomes a payback kind of thing. I have read in previous post that it is because the cheater is allowed to do so. This is true in some cases because it is human nature for people to test their bounderies. This hold true for EVERYONE, man,woman,child and even animal. I think people cheat because of a selfish and greedy nature. There are people that actually love the person they cheat on, also every person that is cheated on is aware of the cheating. In closing it is something lacking within the cheater. Each person must check the miror for the true reason.
Cuz they some bastards!!! LOL JK. I agree with another post- people cheat because they're selfish. It may become a habit for them once they realize that they're allowed to but I think initially its for selfish reasons. My question is why continue in a relationship if you're gonna cheat??
You are 100% right! Funny a guy friend and I had a similar conversation this weekend. He said the same thing you just did!
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