Why is it that we give so much to a person and will allow them not to give anything in return? I mean I understand that we shouldn't give to receive, but does that apply to relationships or is that just a part of the spirit of giving? I honestly think that it is unfair that you attempt to give your best to a person, treat them right, treat them with respect, love, care, and help them; they on the other hand both give you half of what they want to give you and could really care less how you feel.

The question is should you still give, despite not getting back all that you give? I really don't have a solid answer for this and this is why I put it into a relationships talks post, because I want to hear from you. I honestly don't want superficial answers either, forgive me for being demanding, but I'm really curious about this. I understand that you shouldn't be a good person or do the right thing, just to get it in return, but you do want to be with someone who will treat you right right? You want to be with someone who wants to give you the best, just as much as you want to give them the best. Maybe I'm being superficial in my thinking, but I have found it very exhausting to give a person romance, conversation, care, concern, love, thoughtfulness, encouragement, security, assurance, etc...And end up feeling unappreciated, unloved, not cared for, put down, etc.

Note there is a difference between someone not giving those things to you in a relationship and you being to insecure and too messed up to realize that they are giving you these things. There is a clear difference and I know the difference. Honestly I hope I'm not the only one who has been plagued by this question and hopefully I will get some of you to join in on the relationship talks.

joe sni

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I always loved you more than anything else. I gave you everything that I could give. My heart was for you and no one could stop me from giving you my all. My love was no secret, my love wasn't hidden, and you didn't have to guess how I felt. My actions spoke louder than your words and my joy was to make you happy. Nothing in this world could ever replace the love that I had for you. My heart played you a love song, it wrote you a symphony, my heart was your instrument that you were supposed to fine tune, play softly, and create life with. You never had to ask me for anything. You never had to beg me to stay. I was determined to be the one you wanted, determined to be the one you loved; determined to be the one you woke up next to everyday. I needed to be with you, to hold you, to love you. Can you imagine how it feels to love someone so much and have them ignore you? Can you imagine being played, manipulated, and broken; and the person doesn't care?! I never changed, I never changed, I never changed, but you did.

You said you cared, but you never showed it. You said you wouldn't go anywhere and yet you left. You used me and you left me broken. You snapped my heart strings and you cut them with a rusty pair of scissors. You performed surgery on me without any anesthesia and you enjoyed it. I bled my emotions for you and you danced in them. You watched me suffer, you felt my tears, and you heard my plea, but it didn't faze you at all. I can't blame you because I allowed it. I allowed you to use me, I allowed you to take from me, and I gave you my everything; while you gave me nothing. I never changed and neither did you. I never changed and neither did you.

I never changed and neither did you...so why am I so upset?