Genesis 1:26- "Let US make man in Our image, after Our likeness." Genesis 2:7- And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul."
Singleness vs. Marriage is an ongoing discussion; in the world, in society, and especially in the church. Many Christians struggle with the definition of singleness and the identity of singleness, in a world that often views singleness as a low status, and also in a society that has begun to recreate the purpose of marriage and singleness; to cohabitation and loneliness. The problem I have with it isn't society's view or even the Church's view, but my brother is the Child of God's view of singleness and then their view of getting marriage and being married.
I'm presenting to you the TOP THREE REASONS I believe I'm Single and hopefully you will discover the reasons you are still single or the reason you need to discover your singleness.
The top reason I'm still single is this: I've cheated on my spiritual relationship with the Lord with physical relationships with women! I'm not trying to sound super spiritual, but the truth shall set us free. Having sex outside of marriage is not in God's will and it only stands to solidify your position outside of the will of God. I've come to realize that our relationship with God will spill over into our relationship with a woman or with a man. Our relationship with God spills over into our friendships as well. If you are cheating on God with your bodies and making love with someone who isn't your husband and wife; you are separated from God, and your relationships will be that of separation and confusion. You wonder why you can't make it to the ALTAR? You can't stand before God's presence with the presence of SIN on you. If I was wondering why I'm still single, maybe I need to stop cheating on God.
The second reason I believe I'm still single is a poor perception on how to move from singleness to marriage. The thought belief is that you are ingrained with the ability to just know how to select a mate, date her, and then marry her when the time is right and the money is right. On the baseline there is only this perception that you date and you try to give you're best and then you get your reward of marriage. No one can really give a clear, definitive explanation on what courtship is, how to move from dating to engagement, and then from engagement to marriage. I'm still single because I really don't have a clear picture or I didn't...
The third and final reason I believe I'm still single is that I haven't spoke it into my life. God has given me the gift, He has given me the promise that I can have whatever my heart desires, and God has design it for me to possess the land. I believe that if I trust God and I believe that He will give me what I'm praying for I can have it. The timing is now and if I trust God at His word, I can have it.
Top Three Reasons I'm Still Single and Why You May Be Single Too
By JoeTop Three Reasons I'm Still Single and Why You May Be Single Too
Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
2 comments:
OK.. we are on similar wave lengths here. I concur with EVERYTHING you've said wholeheartedly. Its important to point out that we often cheat on God by just not giving Him our full focus when He believes we should be doing such. So it is necessary to remove all of those things away from us to get our complete one on one time. Not only having physical relationships but all activities which turn away from quiet time with Him so we can continue our spiritual growth process.
When we get married we won't have that time to fully devote to him. Thus the reason why Paul was an advocate for single people living for God and God only.. because this is our time to do such.
I had to tell myself, to be honest, God will give you everything you desire in your heart. There is no need to fret about it because if you (do like you stated in point number 3) firmly ask for it and have the faith in Jesus name that it will happen....then it shall happen. With the caveat of it being..in God's time.
One more point.. yesterday I was listening to the radio *Lonnie Hunter Show on our local Praise station in DC* and a caller phoned in to talk about her struggle with a recent decision to be celibate. She noted that those around her aren't really supporting her decision saying that it won't be easy and she's crazy for doing such. Lonnie told her that God is about to take her through a season of isolation as a result of her decision. He's about to isolate her from friends/family/and men so that God can strengthen her to complete the mission she's set out in her heart. When she gets out of that season she will be better apt to face the dating world with a new foundation of her beliefs. Thus the caliber of men she dates will be different because her standards have been transformed in accordance with His plans.
I believe that right there is another reason why I'm single... or should I say in isolation... It hasn't been easy but because I know this is just a season... it gives me something to look forward to in the future.
Sorry So Long!! LOL
Be blessed.
The countless times I have tried to explain things like this to people that refuse to understand. It's nice to see that there are still some smart people in the world.
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