Here is a question I asked on this social website: Is there a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone?
Here's what I answered:
Not the love you have for family, friends, or Philia that brotherly love. No I want to know if there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone you're dating or more importantly you're married to. I find hard to believe that you can love someone but not be in love with them. I think that either you love them or you don't. You can't base love or the value of your relationship or marriage on the passion you once felt for the person. Because it can die; it dies because we stop working on it.
If you believe in being "in love" or "Eros" with a person is only grounded on your feelings then yes it does stop, because your feelings will change. We must stop putting the foundations of our love for someone just on our feelings; this is not only dangerous, but it will destroy you or the other person in the end. Marriages have fallen into divorce, separation, and despair because one person loves the other, but no longer has passion or let's be real (sexual chemistry with them)!!! We need to understand that those things will take work and for the two individuals to be patient. Or in a nutshell don't get into something serious with someone if all you know how to do is love with your feelings. Maybe if we try to love one another with the love God shows us, AGAPE love, unconditional love, then maybe just maybe people won't walk around with their hearts broken.
To Love or To Be In Love
Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
2 comments:
Loving someone suggests a situation of unconditional, selfless giving that in the best scenario includes friendship, passion, humor, honor, faith, and unflagging commitment.
Being in love with someone revolves around the "I" statement and is mainly concerned with the feelings of the subject. It is a state of torture and euphoria, and is absolutely intoxicating.
After twenty years of marriage, I think you can still be in love with your spouse and feel all romantic and passionate - where the emphasis is on how YOU feel. Loving someone means caring for and cleaning up after that person, and putting up with him or her even through bitchiness, anger, and rejection.
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I don't think it is different at all. I feel that people stop loving their girlfriend or boyfriend, because they are tired of working. Love is action and it takes work to love someone. Saying I love you, but I'm no longer in love with you is a nice way to say I quit!!!
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