Should you and your spouse perform oral sex on one another? Should you perform oral sex on your husband or wife if you don't like doing it?
The answer to the first question is a definite YES! You should perform oral sex on your spouse as often as you can, as often as they like it, and as often as you want to do it for them. If you enjoy doing it and receiving it then you will be fulfilled when you carry out this sexual act with all the love, adoration, and skill that you have within you.
Are there rules to this thing call oral sex of course: 1. Know your partner and know how they like it. 2. Do it with love and not with an attitude. 3. Hygiene is very important. 4. Do it with the mindset of bringing great pleasure to your spouse.
Again don't just save it for special occasions, don't withhold it to punish your spouse, and definitely never ever ever do it half-hearted or sadly; because that's not sexy or pleasurable at all.
Now the answer to the second question is a little more challenging, but it can be worked on through open communication, positive encouragement, and patience. Don't force someone to do things that they are uncomfortable doing. It will more than likely be very uncomfortable and not pleasurable for both individuals.
Talk to your spouse about why they don't want to perform oral sex and what would help them be more into it. Encourage them to try it in a positive manner, give them oral pleasure and not seek to be reimbursed right away, but discuss how it felt for them; if the taste is the problem, have your spouse try foods that will improve the taste of their seminal or vaginal fluids; and like I said be patient.
Please enjoy giving your spouse oral sex and have lots and lots of fun.
Marriage Talks: Oral Sex and Marriage Does It Mix
Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
3 comments:
Personally I think that oral sex should be respected by choice. One should feel comfortable and confident in doing such, if not performance will be lacking, which can result in sexual conflict.
However, I do enjoy it a great deal! Pleasing my husband is Top Priority! But when I choose not to (give) my choice is respected as well.
Sex is art. So enjoy painting your canvas!
Carmen
Such a TRUE post! Keep in up and feel free to follow me :D
I will look FORWARD to oral sex with my husband....THANKS JOE for clearing this allll up!!!
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