I often sit back and wonder if I'm all talk or if this monogamy thing is what I truly believe in. (Disclaimer: If you're reading this let me be clear this is me thinking out loud. I believe in monogamy and I'm a ONE woman MAN!). But I'm sitting here thinking like wow where did I get this from? What has made me decide to be monogamous?
Was I born with this particular preference for relationships or was it environment that fostered the belief that monogamy is the way to go for me? I have no idea why this has come up at all; actually I do, there are A LOT of beautiful sexy women out there. While I don't think I can be in a relationship with them all; believe me I get the lust factor, I get the idea of them being eye candy, and I get that wow women are amazing. Anyway I don't know if I can pinpoint it to one particular experience or circumstance that can state why I'm prone to monogamy.
I know this much it is a combination of both instances and experience. Experience in life will make a great or poor student out of you! I think I was born this way because it feels so natural. I have a strong desire outside of experience to be faithful to one person and doing it comes natural for me. I think it was environment; seeing people hurt one another because of cheating and lust, has helped me choose monogamy, and embrace it. Experience was the best teacher for me. I've been cheated on several times and it hurt every time, even when the person was honest with me; it still hurt and I never wanted to hurt someone in that way.
Temptation is a very powerful thing, but I would leave the one I'm with or stay single before I made the decision to cheat. Cheating is a decision, even if you have a genetic predisposition to cheat or be non-monogamous.
I think monogamy chose me and I also choose monogamy...but that doesn't mean I don't window shop either.
Did Monogamy Choose Me? Am I really suited for this thing call monogamy or is it just a suit I wear.
I know this I believe fully in the 80/20 rule and that you never miss a good thing until it is gone.
Did Monogamy Choose Me?
Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
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I think that monogamy is a choice, but I don't think people choose to cheat. I think that things happen to lead people to cheat. This was a very interesting read.
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