I just will never grasp the people who are fixated in targeting and being in relationships with people who are already taken. I'm not talking to the men and women who have been tricked or lied too; you are partly excused. I say partly excused because the truth eventually comes out and you stay? That is another blog post for another day.
I just want to figure out though why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who is already married or already in a committed relationship. I understand the relationship anxious, who have psyched themselves into believing that it is better to be with someone who is emotionally invested with someone else, so that you can get yours and send them home, but I'm concerned for the men and women who have been tricked into believing that they will leave their spouse for YOU!!!
Why put yourself through that level of pain and anguish? RELATIONSHIPS are already tumultuous enough between two people! Why on earth would you want to subject yourself to such unnecessary emotional stress and destruction? You honestly believe that you matter to them? It is possible I am being judgmental, cynical, and downright pessimistic, but you have to forgive me on this one. I'm tired of seeing you in fairy tale world; saying things like, "she loves me," or "he is just putting on an act he really hates her," or "he/she will leave them for me."
It isn't going to happen and if it does they will leave them for someone else and STILL make you the OTHER PERSON!
I have a friend who would say this to you, "Accept your position as the jump off and stop trying to be the wife," Tough but true.
I will say this though, "You don't want to be at the bottom of the stable go find your own rider."
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Isn't It Better To Have Your Own?
By JoeIsn't It Better To Have Your Own?
Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
3 comments:
I don't think of it that way. I think that some times it is better to do things that work for you. I agree you are being very cynical in your thinking. I mean everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I think you may have taken it too far. I believe that relationships aren't defined by moral and societal constructs, rather they are defined by the people in them.
@maurice thank you for posting I appreciate that. I'm not purposely being cynical...well I guess I am. I just can't believe that people can be happy going after someone who keeps them to the side and play with them when they are ready. I know people enjoy those kinds of relationships, but I guess this post is for people who are truly unhappy and pretend. I do believe that relationships are defined by the people in them, but I also believe that relationships should be, can be, and are also defined by moral, and societal constructs as you have worded. Society shapes the way we think, so does TV, how we were raised, the people we look up too, and our own experiences. I also believe that if relationships were shaped in moral fiber we would have happier marriages, less divorces/breakups, and a better society. But that's just me being hopefully optimistic. That is rare for me to be.
This post is really good. I think that people just don't want to deal with a real and true relationship. I don't agree that all are unhappy if they go after someone who is in a relationship, but I do agree maybe you should get your own.
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