"This is my boyfriend" "Everyone this is my girlfriend."
Let's just say that the two statements here are spoken by a couple, male and female, been in a relationship for 3 years, and they are 28, and 34.
That is not their pants or waist size, but those numbers represent their ages. Three years of being in a relationship, possibly living together, may have been intimate on many levels, paying bills together, and saying the powerful words, "I love you."
This sounds very beautiful, but there is one drastic flaw to this, they are still calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend! Here is the bottom line, is there ever a time or an age when you are just too old to still be called or considered some one's boyfriend or girlfriend?
When is enough enough? This is the question that I am often asked or this is what comes up when people are getting tired of being clustered into the category of what seems to be the perpetually comfortable terminology of girlfriend, boyfriend, or we are just dating.
JUST DATING!? Seems to me if we have been in a relationship for over a year, living together, having sex, etc... we are doing a lot more than just dating, and please don't throw in having children together.
When do we evolve? When does our relationship grow past the childhood past time of just going steady? Is this what I have to look forward to for the rest of my life? Is this the title that I'm worthy of? Am I too damn old to be called some one's girlfriend? Am I too old to just be your boyfriend?
If there is no time limit on how long you should be in a relationship with someone before you grow or move on, is there an age limit? When is enough enough? I know marriage isn't where everyone wants to go or wants to be, but someone needs to come up with a different title to call me.
After a certain age it is just completely cumbersome to still be considered just a girlfriend or boyfriend right?
We either need a new title or get into some GROWN UP relationships.
I'm just blogging.
Too Old For the Kiddy Pool.
When Are You Too Old To Be Called Someone's Girlfriend/Boyfriend
By JoeWhen Are You Too Old To Be Called Someone's Girlfriend/Boyfriend
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Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
8 comments:
Lord Jesus...got to read this. I've often wondered the same thing myself. How are you 30 plus still calling someone your boy/girl friend?!?! Is this just so your relationship can be defined? Or does the title entitle you to certain rights, claims, and/or authority? Good topic!
AWESOME blog!!!
My boo, sweetie, honey, = boyfriend/girlfriend. A rose by any other name. I don't think it is the age of the individuals that defines the relationship, more so than the length of the relationship. After X number of years with the same boyfriend/girlfriend ...
But my question is (which speaks to what Joey blogged about) after sooooo many years of being boyfriend & girlfriend, which more than likely leads to living together (sometimes even buying a house together), having sex (which often leads to children), sharing many major responsibilities (paying bills, becoming a part of each others families)...why are we still boyfriend and girlfriend?!?! After all of that...what causes people to continue to avoid permanent committment?
I hear "significant other" used a lot when some one is referring to a mate that they have been with for some time, especially why they are sharing an household, etc. Although a lot of times it "my wife" or my husband" although they have never married legally. Is that why common-law is so common? Does the title really matter? Is it for clarification or justification? The reasons some people avoid permanent commitment are to numerous and varied. They can run the full range of the practical to the absurd. Who judges what is practical and what is absurd?
I just think that there should be some growth and after a certain time and certain things.
Well, I am 27 and I introduce my 'boyfriend' as my John. I too feel it kind of weird to be intoducing someone as a boyfriend or girlfriend or even the fact that there for some unknown reason needs to be that label. It is crazy how much some people hinge a relationship on what they are called. I know that is a little off topic, but still.
You are too old to be someone's boyfriend or girlfriend when you have a child! Point blank period! It is time to be someone's friend or someone's lover, or even someone's spouse or partner, but not boyfriend or girlfriend. That is just ridiculous.
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