Everyone has their own ideas on what it takes to have a great relationship. So I just want to quickly share my ideas on what I believe are the necessary ingredients to a strong relationship.
Here we go:
1. Human Connection! View and treat the person you are dating or in a relationship with as a human being and not a god/superhero. You are setting a person up for failure when you forget that they are an infallible being just like you. Having a human to human connection makes room for people to be imperfect and opens the door to compassion and understanding.
2. Open Communication! Open and effective communication means that both persons are developing strong listening skills, improving their nonverbal communication skills, they both have an understanding of how to manage stress, and they can keep their emotions in check or express them in a healthy way. Open communication involves honesty and understanding. It isn't just about saying a bunch of stuff, but the quality of what is said, heard, and understood.
3. Working Chemistry! Everyone has this false belief that chemistry is just something that you and the other person will have. I believe that there is natural physical chemistry or attraction, but then just like you have to know and try the formulas in real chemistry, that is the same type of work you have to do in building and maintaining the chemistry in your relationships.
4. Fun! We put too much pressure on ourselves when we are in relationships and we focus too much on "making it work" that we lose focus on having fun. We have to do the work to keep the relationship going, but that doesn't mean it has to be absent of fun. Be spontaneous sometimes! Be creative! Laugh as much as you can with one another! Most of all be PRESENT!
This list could go on and on, but I just wanted to give you something simple and quick to think about!
Here's to strong relationships!
A List for a Strong Relationship
Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
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