I posted on Facebook for each of my friends and family to give their thoughts on some of their anxiety when it relates to dating. Here is what they had to say:
Lil sis: for me lack of proper communication always comes up...as well as wen do u kno whether u should stay & try to work things out or wen enuff is jus that....
Future MSW Woman: Real men.. topic 1Men with potential and who strives for excellence.. topic 2Godly Men! topic 3JEALOUS MEN... i run across this a lot... envious might be a better way or intimated..
D. Lady: I think I have a problem attracting selfish men and thats because Im such a giving person and I think they kinda sniff it out...lol..Im a big "lay it out on the table, tell me everything I need to know" type of chick when it comes to the communication part...I dont think there is really a great way to break up with someone...thats something thats inevitably gonna hurt unless u 2 have just grown apart and the feeling is now mutual...but if one party is blind sided with the break up...its gonna hurt regardless..even tho I dont think there's a great way to break up with someone...I think there are classy ways and trashy ways to do it and its ur choice which way u decide...I think everyone should always be classy no matter what...but I cant speak for everyone...OK, this is alot...
Brother C: What I’ve found is that people (myself included) aren’t too quick to let go of their past. We allow past hurts to affect present relationships. We measure the new person in our life by what the last person did to us, and tend to guard our feelings more closely, often to our detriment.
Lady Tina: do i stay or is enough enough? Also I'm noticing more & more that my female friends are giving so much of themselves in relationships but not getting much in return. Why do we continue to accept that?? Got another one! CHEATERS - can you continue a relationship after one person cheats? Can you really forgive them if you decide to take them back? Can you ever trust them again?
So I will try in the next couple of Dating PTSD post to tackle some of these questions. Again I want to thank you all for posting your comments.
Dating PTSD (1/24/09)- Your Perspective
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