Loving Love or the Feeling of Love

I layed in the bed and I was pondering what we loved more- to be loving or loving the feeling of being loved. I have no idea what made my mind decide to think about this, but I wonder if it is in our natures to love or in our natures to be loved. Man I'm sitting at my computer unable to truly write what I want, but I guess I'm asking if love is more of an action or is it more of a feeling.

Feelings are truly very dangerous creatures. They will have you in the most uncomfortable situations, stay with the wrong person, desire someone who doesn't want you, and your feelings will definitely have you thinking you're in love.

I'm convinced that Love is 80% action and 20% feeling, but we have it backwards and love is 80% feeling and 20% action. Honestly I think that we don't put enough actions, well positive actions behind our love, and that's why we don't always succeed at love. It is never safe to place all your cards on feelings; especially if you want to know if a person truly loves you, or if you truly love someone.

I know some might say because I've been burned in the game of love that I'm a little cynical, but it isn't that; instead I'm convinced that we have to approach love more from an action point-of-view and not solely from a feeling perspective. Feelings change all the time and they're not always stable.

I guess I'm writing this so that we can begin loving people with our actions and truly try to grasp what loving someone really is about.

The Bible says Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. (I Corinthians 13:4-7). Those are some heavy actions associated with Love.

I dated a girl awhile back and the one thing that I truly appreciated from our tumultuous relationship, it was her belief that to say that you love someone means that you would be willing to give your life for them.

Now this changed the way I looked at opening my mouth and telling a girl that I loved her. At first I thought it was just her way of saying that I shouldn't say I loved her so fast, but then when I thought about what Jesus did for the world, (gave his life for us because he loved us) I didn't think that she was crazy. Now I'm not quick to say I love someone I'm dating, or in a relationship with, but I think about what I'm willing to sacrifice for them.

In a nutshell I just don't want to experience the feeling of love. I don't want to be in another serious relationship and just have the feeling that this woman loves me, no I want to know that she loves me. I want to experience the love, I want to breathe her love, I want to see it, touch it, hear it, taste it, and I want her to know that my love will do the same for her. I don't know if there's a such thing as being in love (an earlier post), but I do know that I'm a firm believer that love is action and not just words or feelings.

I hope that as you read this post that it brought you to a place of evaluation. To evaluate whether or not your love is in it's purest form. Or in other words that the love your experiencing is not just feeling, but action.

I'm hoping that someone is out there feeling me.