I honestly used to hate when people would say this statement "Friends are for a season". I thought that this was one of the worst things that a person could say about their friend or friends. I felt like it was just an excuse for people to use when they do not want to deal with conflict or when they feel like their friends aren't making them feel the way they want to feel. I thought it was a cop-out move or sucka move to end friendships and do your own thing.
At this very moment, this very second, this very season (ha); I'm may have crossed over to the wrong side of the tracks and learning that maybe just maybe, as much as I don't want to say it, but maybe some friends are just for a season.
I'm starting to truly believe that maybe the way that I think is wrong...I have this notion that the people you really call friend, that have been with you through the good and the bad, those friends last forever. And if you've ever called me your friend you know that I'm dedicated...I may slip every now and then, but for the most part I'm there for you. I believe you don't call everyone your friend, but for those that you do, you love them with all you have, you love the good and bad about them, and you don't throw them away or let the friendship die.
Yeah I think inside this crazy head of mine, my way of thinking is totally off about friends. Maybe the other side of that track is very true. Maybe you're supposed to make friends, milk them for as much time and energy as you can, learn what you're supposed to learn about them, and then we they can no longer offer you anything else, or they begin to annoy you; you let them go when the seasons change. Move on and find another friend.
I promise you the way I feel right now I'm starting to lean towards the opposite side of the track. Like maybe I have been wrong for the way I feel about friendship in general. Hell the way I feel about relationships period. Should you give your best and everything you have just to be let go with the seasons? Should you care if your friends disrespect you and do wrong by you; should you care when you're not going to be friends much longer anyway?
I don't want to think this way...I love all my real friends, but maybe I'm wrong for thinking that friendships last forever.
Or maybe we all just need to be careful who we call our friends?????!!!!!
Are Friends Really For A Season?
Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
1 comments:
I don't believe in that saying either. But I do believe that we need to choose our friends wisely. There are some friends who are toxic and others who are just there when they need something. It's important to be able to differentiate your real friends from superficial ones. Only time can tell who your real friends are. My best friend of 5 years and I had a misunderstanding. We stopped talking for a little over a year. Then somehow we are the best of friends again. If it's meant to be then it's meant to be.
"Destiny and faith decides who you meet in life, but it is up to you to decide who is worth keeping."
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