"Do Women Love Harder Then Men, Especially In Relationships?"

Read and then comment on what the ladies had to say about Women vs Men and who loves Harder!!!

piecesbeauty:I feel its this. Men can love harder than a woman depending on what type of man he is. Sometimes men love harder than there woman but doesn't show it because of their own insecurities within themselves. Women love hard because that is in us, its the nurturing part of who we are. Some show it in different ways but when it comes down to it that's what we do. I feel men love harder through actions and women love harder through emotions.

blessedbythebest: i think individuals love differently, regardless of their sex. i agree with @chalisse23 that it depends on what type of person they are. Yes, women, in general, are nurturing and love hard but not all women are like that. Some of them have different perspectives because of what they've seen others do or because of their own experiences . The way they act, feel and think are shaped by those experiences. Some can be more guarded and may be unable to really let themselves fall in love or love hard. Same with men. I've met some men that fall deep in love so fast and some that could care less. Some love just as hard but don't know how to express it. So my answer to the question in not necessarily.

Sorry guys - chalisse23 didn't follow the rules and share her comments with everyone. LOL

how are you going to put me out there...well here was my comments ms. big mouth.

piscesqueen: feel its this. Men can love harder than a woman depending on what type of man he is. Sometimes men love harder than there woman but doesn't show it because of their own insecurities within themselves. Women love hard because that is in us, its the nurturing part of who we are. Some show it in different ways but when it comes down to it that's what we do. I feel men love harder through actions and women love harder through emotions.

jwriter:@everyone: Thank you blessedbythebest and piscesqueen for commenting so far. I'm really excited about the comments and posting it. As you know posting is on Monday, so feel free to comment until Sunday. I'm looking forward to reading the other comments and I promise I will only do this once every two to three months so you won't miss out on too much work blessedbythebest. Oh and Men love harder then women, we just love differently, but it is terrible when a man's heart gets broken, because we don't know what to do with the broken pieces, but to lash out, or to blog LOL.

blessedbythebest: that's my point @jwriter, it is terrible when a man's heart gets broken but it's terrible when a woman's heart get broken too. I'm liable to lash out at every unsuspecting person in my path. but I know some people who will go out and party like its 1999 after a heartbreak. it just depends on the individual :)

piscesqueen: Well I have done both....The hangover was not much appreciated for the partying part but it felt better to do that than deal with the pain. Now instead of lashing out a lot of females including myself go into a bubble and just deal with it. However, is there any positive way to deal with a heart break. I mean really?

Justme: I take it that when you say 'love hard' you are referring to total commitment and loving with your whole heart? I agree with blessedbythebest men and women love hard but they express it differently. The expression of that love will depend on what they observed as a love while growing up, their past experiences, who they are as a person (i.e. self esteem) and their comfort with expressing their emotions.

Loveyourselffirst: Ok I have to agree with a lot of the comments that was made and can definitely agree the both women and men love differently. However, I do think in most cases women do love the hardest. There some men that are more sensitive then others and make their love know to the women in what ever why is needed. Then you have those guys that they feel if they take out the trash that's there way of showing how they love you. You have to ensure that the women and the man understand each other and what symbolizes their love. And to heart breaks I believe that women have is the worst and take it the worst because women are usually more emotionally attached to their partner so when the break up happens we don't know what to do with those emotions. Men on the other hand move on rather quickly to the next women in line. Women have to wait and find the next good thing and the ration of good men isn't that great these days. I have so much to say but can't type fast enough, but last statement on men loving harder I always say the best way a man show a women how much the love and appreciate her is by cheating on here. Men are a totally different animal from women. There is no science to it at all...

jwriter:@Loveyourselffirst: I first want to thank you for commenting, but I definitely have to debate that men move on a lot faster; so untrue; I think for all men that when we truly fall in love with someone, we have dropped all pretense of pride, and in a sense have made ourselves vulnerable. You are absolutely right when you say that women and men have to understand each other; MEN AND HEARTBREAK do not go together!!! It is way worst, because now a man's pride/ego/emotions/feelings everything have been stepped on and they now have to either bottle it up or be stigmatized as sensitive or weak, or they turn their hurt into anger and go on a rampage of loose women, "moving on fast- (please believe he is still thinking of you while he's banging her," or become very bitter or even misogynistic towards women. This is the cycle that has ran the ration of "good men" dry. I do believe we have to learn how to communicate better, I do believe heartbreak is hard for both a man and woman, but I think it is a lot worst for a man. (Chalk it up to the double standards of the world: Women are to be emotional (not all women are emotional or able to express emotion) and Men are to be these walls of steel, can't "fall in love", emotionless, sex addicted love sticks. (So not true at all).

lifechangingchick: WOW!!! Great points and perspectives everyone! I have to agree with blessedbythebest and picesqueen. Individuals do love differently. I believe it first has to do with upbringing as justme pointed out. What a person sees in his or her surroundings as a child may really affect how they act in a relationship. I always saw my mother and father together, doing family things, dating etc., so in every relationship I put waaaayyyy too much into it waaayyy too early thinking that was how it was supposed to be and as a result always ended up hurt. I do think that the past really affects the way a man or woman loves in the present. That may or may not be a good thing. If they take the good and the bad, learn what works and move forward it's great but of course it doesn't always work like that. I've seen and heard of many situations where both men and women allow their past to ruin a perfectly good relationship. @jwriter and actually everyone else, check out this movie called "Diary of a Tired Black Man" it really speaks to what this discussion is about and much more.

Angelthoughts: I think this question really depends on the people in the relationship. I think women are "traditionally" labeled to love harder. We are emotional, sensitive, can be needy, and we want attention from the man we love. We are nurturers so it can be in us to take care of the man and cater to the man, almost like taking care of our children. So, sure, we can love harder in the relationship. But there are men that love harder as well. Being a woman, and receiving this kind of love from a man can actually be a little scary and shocking, especially if we have had bad experiences in relationships. I've seen men that love hard, and the women takes advantage of it. Our love for each other doesn't have to be a competition, we can both give 100%.