Relationship Talks- They're in Love With Someone Else

"Baby I've been unhappy for a very long time and I have to say that we knew that our relationship was coming to an end. We can't work it out because I'm in love with someone else."

"I don't love you anymore. I'm in love with another man or woman"

"We can't be together because I love someone else. It's me not you."

Have you ever had to hear these words? Has you're heart ever been broken by your lover or significant other telling you these words or maybe you're the person who has said these words. To the person who has said these words I have one thing to say: END THE RELATIONSHIP BEFORE FALLING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE. You may not be able to help who you love, but you can at least end the relationship you're in first before falling for someone else.

To the one who had to hear this and was somehow expected to just deal with this I want to help you at least ease the pain or walk towards recovery with this Relationships Talk post. So here we go...

The FIRST thing you have to do is to acknowledge that they are in love with someone else. Don't try to rationalize it or deny that they are just upset or confused; most times if they have told you this then they are in love with someone else. Acknowledgement is always the first step to recovery. (I'm not saying that you can't fight for them if that is what you want to do, but acknowledging the truth may help you see clearly.)

The NEXT thing to do is to refrain from blaming yourself. OK so the relationship had it's problem or things were on the rocks; but solving the problem is the key, or ending the relationship, or going to see a counselor; anything but getting into another relationship or FALLING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!!! Sometimes when we don't understand something in our relationship or the one we love wants to leave; we blame ourselves, "it's all my fault" or "I didn't love you enough," but the truth is no matter what you did or didn't do; they decided to go to someone else, instead of facing you and ending it, rather then falling for another person. (To fall in love takes time and investment; so it didn't just happen over night.) I do believe that you can PUSH people away, but it is always their choice to get with someone else.
So don't blame yourself.

The THIRD thing that you should consider doing is letting go. Let them have their time away and you take your time to ask some important questions. The biggest question being if you can take them back if they ask to come back. Letting go is important for you so that you can see what you need to learn from this craziness; what you can do differently next time, whether you want them back, and whether it is time for you to enjoy your singleness. This isn't the time for you to BLAME yourself or to waste it being angry, but the first step to you healing. (Stay off their Facebook page, calling them or texting them all the time, or stalking them LOL).

Honestly you have to do whatever you need to do to get through this, but the most important thing to do is not to blame yourself and to try really hard to let go.

Being in love is very unpredictable, but I believe that if someone LOVES you truly they can't fall in love with someone else. Remember it takes time and investment to FALL IN LOVE with someone.

We just talking about relationships.

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