Let me inform you now that there is nothing, NOTHING you can do to MAKE him ask you the question. Don't beat me up I'm just telling the truth. I'm trying to help all of us understand that MARRIAGE is a big step; a blessing, a joy, a commitment, but it is also work, an investment, and a covenant...so it shouldn't be entered into lightly. Again you can't make a man ask you or threaten; although the latter has worked for some, but PURE, amazing, and an extension of your man's love and devotion for you is when he asks you out of his heart.
What you can do is be who you are, be a FRIEND to them, if you're in love with them SHOW them, if you want a husband; prepare to be a wife (not cooking, cleaning, or sexing them; no you have to spend time learning the innate things to becoming a wife; nurturing, a concerned woman of prayer and devotion, sacrificial, loving, kind, soft, thoughtful, conversational, PROVERBS 31, how to let your man lead, how to be supportive without emasculating your man, Godly, etc....), you have to set standards BEFORE you begin to date someone. Let the man know before you begin a relationship with them that YOU'RE LOOKING TO BE MARRIED, OR that YOU'RE not trying to JUST DATE SOMEONE. So you have to learn how to set standards and get with someone who is going in the same direction. (You will realize that if you get with someone who is on that track towards marriage you'll see what you need to see in them and them in you; when you both don't see those things you will move on and it won't hurt so bad when you do end it.)
The thing most men are looking for is someone they can call their companion. That they can trust them with their most intimate and vulnerable secrets and person with. Can you be that woman?
I'm trying to tell you ladies that giving a man the freakiest, nastiest, downright no holds barred SEX will not have them ask you to be their wife. (Now it will make them keep you around for a while or put you on the list as their sideline hoe, but for most men THIS is not the deciding factor for them.) So let me save you some guilt and shame here; also some embarrassment later on. If I'm wrong ask yourself how many times you've been the woman in the streets and the FREAK in the bed and YOU STILL DON'T HAVE A RING ON YOUR FINGER???? If I'm wrong someone let me know.
Finally ladies just stop with the tricks, the flips, and the manipulation to get your husband. Just learn to wait and be patient. If you are in a relationship and have been in it for a long time; have the discussion with your man about your thoughts and feelings. Then make the decision if you're willing to wait; if you love them you will wait, but if not you'll find your one. Better yet let him find you; you're a treasure.
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Why Won't They Pop The Question? Pt. 2
Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
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