This next statement has to be a line in one or two of the books I will eventually write.
"Everything that you've read about dating has been a lie, or at least a distorted, opinionated, and drawn out delusion of what someone has deemed as truth. The truth is it is just a hyped up version of their own experiences and we take it all in just to be soothed from our own failures in dating and relationships. Yes I, the Great Joe, am about to tell you some truthful lies, the difference is I'm being upfront with you and telling you that this is just based on my perception; my version on how I think we should navigate the painful perils of person to person intimacy." --Joseph Snider
The truth about relationships stands on these eight words: we have no idea what we are doing! That is the absolute truth my friends and there is no way around it. Navigating through a relationship is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. No matter how much we say we want the best, we want this, or they must have that; we either end up being totally attracted to the opposite, or we end up sad and alone with our impossible standards.
The truth is we never really have much truth, because we can't even be honest with our own selves. We can't handle hearing the truth about who we are or we can hardly stand looking at ourselves in the mirror. But we hold those we enter into relationship with under a microscope and try to analyze them into what we want them to be.
If you want to know the truth about relationships; stop looking for a cure all or an easy fix. Look to where real truth lies. I find my real truth in my relationship with Christ and through his love for me. Maybe that is not where you find your truth, but I can tell you this much, you won't find the truth about relationships reading another person's truth or their experiences. You possibly won't find it in someone giving you a checklist of do's and dont's. You will never ever find it just sitting at home waiting for the truth about relationships to come smack you in the face. What you will find is loneliness and isolation.
Or maybe you will find out that the truth is you can't stand being in a relationship with yourself. Now that's some real truth.
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Dating PTSD: The Truth About Relationships
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Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
1 comments:
man that just really made me sit back and look at myself. i mean we do sit around waiting for someone to come around and tell us how to do this thing called love. maybe my failure in relationships have come from me not being able to look at how i treat woman. i don't really have the answer but this post surely made me think.
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