Signs of a Happy Husband

As I have tried to make clear, no one can make you happy, but they can/should contribute to the happiness you should have within yourself. Since I did a post on Signs of a Happy Wife, I thought I would do one for the Husbands.

Again this is about awareness or getting better at pointing out when our spouse or loved ones are at their highest points or flying on cloud nine. For men being happy contributes to our overall esteem, the way we react to life as a whole, and how we treat those around us. Understanding these points that I have identified will hopefully help wives and husbands better connect and understand one another.

Here is what I identified, but remember this is my opinion:

1. A Happy Husband Wants to Work and Provide for His Family.
2. A Happy Husband Is Willing, Able, and Ready to Have Sex.
3. A Happy Husband Can't Wait To Get Home To His Wife and Family.
4. A Happy Husband Enjoys Time With His Friends and His Wife Enjoying Time With Her Friends.
5. A Happy Husband Is Romantic and Affectionate Towards His Wife.

When a husband is happy he is enthusiastic about going to work and providing for his family. The key to this is that he is providing. Any man with a family can go out and work; some love going to an awful job to get away from home. But a man who is happy at home and happy within his marriage wants to go out and work and is fulfilled that he can do for his family; even if it is paying the mortgage or light bill. Having a job and the ability to work is attached to a man's ego and esteem. You want to know an unhappy man with low self-esteem; let him not be working or better yet not able to provide. Your husband may not even say anything outwardly, but inwardly it is affecting him. A way to keep this up wives is to show appreciation to your husband for his hard work, take interest in how his day at work went, and let him know how much you love him for being a provider. This will motivate him to jump out of bed to get to work, even if it is a job he doesn't care for. His joy comes from being able to provide. Having the drive and happiness to do this is a great sign of joy!

A happy husband is willing, able, and ready to have sex with his wife. I know people think that men are just horn dogs that are ready for action every time they see you. This is truth for a lot of us men, but one indication that a man's emotional fuel tank is on low are the times when sex is not a desire or priority for them. A lot of times women have used this indicator as a possible sign that their husband is getting sex or sexual fulfillment from somewhere else; it may even be true for some, but the biggest sign comes way before infidelity comes into play. Most men, if not all, are seeking almost daily to have sex with their wives and have to adjust to her sexual temperature, because most women operate on a lower sexual drive than most men. So even if they are getting it once a month, 2x a week, or once a year; when that time comes they are ready for it and take full advantage of it. However if the happiness meter is low and they are not willing, able, and ready to have sex with their wife; it is time for a serious, nonjudgmental talk. It is possible that they are unhappy at work, unhappy with how much sex they do get from their wives, unhappy about a loved one passing, or just stressed; however this indicator should let both of you know to talk some things out and "WORK" some things out in the bedroom or kitchen counter. Just don't let this fester. Like work and providing, sex with the wife and great sex with the wife will keep a husband happy and fulfilled.

Your husband is happy when he comes home to you, his wife! I say this because I have met so many men who would rather drive around in their cars, chill alone at the bar, or be with friends. They prefer to do this because they do not like being home. Home isn't a safe place for them. They come home to nagging, fussing, arguments, or some other stress. May be they are the ones doing all the nagging and arguing because they can't address what is going on inside their heads. Whatever the case may be, a sign of a happy husband is when coming home is first on his list. He wants to be there, and when he gets home he greets you if you're home, he is into the children, he helps out at home, or he comes home and kicks his feet up. If he has plans, you best believe that a happy husband has let his wife know that he has plans, but also let's her know he can't wait to get home to her. You want your husband to be at this place. Again if you don't see this it maybe time for some communication.

This next sign of a happy husband is something I think a lot of people miss out on. When you get married yes your family comes first, but having friendships that build and grow you are very important. This is in my opinion is vital for a man! An isolated man can become easily comfortable and often unhappy because we thrive on our friendships and having that hangout time with the Fellaz.
I do agree husbands do need positive friends in their lives, but I believe the same thing for women. A guy needs that time with his homeboys and if he is unwilling to hangout with them and says I just want to be at home; take a look at his emotional fuel tank. I'm not saying a husband shouldn't want to be home with his wife and family, but getting that time to hang out and wanting that time is a sign that we are happy. We get to talk about our lives, we get to talk real, and we get to just laugh and joke. You also know your husband is happy when he is OK with you hanging out with your friends. The positive friends lol, but nonetheless he is OK and not threatened because you want to hang out. If you have a husband that encourages you to hangout with friends, you have a happy husband.

Finally your husband is happy when he is intimate and romantic towards you. Your husband may not be Casanova, but he knows how to be thoughtful and wants to bring you flowers, hold your hands, or cook a nice candle lit dinner for you. He takes his time when kissing you or trying to get you in the mood. He is so happy it spills over in his intimacy towards you. When men are emotionally disconnected, they are often hampered in showing any kind of affection or romance. If they do do it it is often to prevent you from nagging him or becoming upset, but who wants someone to do something that their heart is not in it. You might say hey he is still having sex with me, but sex and intimacy and affection are so different in a lot of ways. You want to be connected on more than a physical level right? So you know you have a happy husband when he is motivated and puts forth an effort to be intimate and romantic towards you.

Take time to take the temperature of your marriage. Read both posts "Signs of a Happy Wife" and "Signs of a Happy Husband" and talk about where you fit in, where you agree, and even where you disagree. Remember it is important that you communicate and you pay attention to your spouse. Don't get too comfortable where you just let them go on empty and just drive on fumes.

Marriage takes work, but the work doesn't have to be a chore.