What the HECK is going on with married men and women today???
Have they completely forgot that they made vows or was it just for some false sense of security that they got married? Did you get married just so you'll have someone to go home to? For someone to have your children or have children with and erase you fear of being alone???
I mean it must truly be a new law that I have missed. I mean married people are doing some crazy mess.
If you're married here is what I think you shouldn't do (AND THIS IS JUST MY OPINION)
1. You should not be going to bars trying to pick up people!!! I mean then some of you don't even bother to take off your ring!
2. Calling someone of the opposite sex during the hours of 10:00PM-6:00 AM unless it is a sister or brother, Mom, or dad, or an emergency. I was raised that you don't call nobody pass 9:00 PM, but if you're married calling the opposite sex for any reason at that time of night is uncool.
3. Staying out all times of the night having your spouse worried about you. I mean if they know where you're at and who you with, and you both agreed on it then fine, but yeah check that though.
4. If you are separated from your wife or husband, that means you are still MARRIED! It is not cool for you to date other people. (I have had a few separated women step to me. Look I don't do MARRIED WOMEN!!!) Single/Dating life is hard enough...it is not cool to add that extra drama.
5. Cheating (well that's been said)
6. Talking to non-professional or really-not-that-spiritual-or-people-that-will-not-guide-you-back-to your-spouse-or-tell-you-to-pray-to-God- (sorry) talking to these people about your problems in your marriage. I mean yeah I understand that you may need to talk to someone, but get someone who can actually help you and your marriage. And don't get people that will help you do dirt in your marriage or disrespect your spouse. You're doing wrong if you haven't talked to your husband or wife about the problem first anyway. (Come on people)
7. Not honoring your vows or your promises to your spouse and to God.
You know right now I sound judgmental, which I try really hard not to be, but I mean why get married??? I mean it is getting out of CONTROL!!! And the thing that gets me is that the MARRIED WOMEN are getting BOLDER!!!
Again this is just my opinion, but I needed to know does Married equal ok to date other people???
Married= Ok To Date Other People???
By JoeMarried= Ok To Date Other People???
Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
3 comments:
very good post! I was reading your list and agreeing the whole way thru! No it is not "ok" to be married and date other people. I have heard the term "open" marriage used. Personally I think this is crazy. Like you said why get married if you don't want to be JUST with that person?? As we progress it seems we are losing some of the traditional values. I think it is sad. Makes me wish things were simplier and that I lived during a different time period..... very good post (sorry if I am way off on my grammer... I am tired and I tend to write fast when thoughts come to me and your post had so many ideas going thru my head I didn't know where to start!!) Lol ;)
I completely agree with you. It is defintely not ok! When I was single, I met this really great guy at a karaoke bar. Cute, funny, and no ring. We talked about running and he said he'd love to be running buddies, so I gave him my number. He stepped away from the bar for a min, and then his friend leaned in and said, "look, you seem like a nice girl, so let me save you some hurt. He's married." I was floored! When the guy got back, I mafde him delete my number. Seriously who does that?!
I think marriage and separation are two different things and if two adults who are married but separated agree to date other people I see nothing wrong with it.
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