Kubler-Ross describes the stages of grief and loss as: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance. These stages appear to be linear, but I also believe that people can pass back and forth between these stages. I also believe that people can become stagnate in one of these stages before moving forward or going backwards. The hardest stage however to reach or to remain within to me is ACCEPTANCE.
The hardest thing for me to do is to move towards acceptance; especially if I believe that my character or my integrity is being "attacked." I struggle with being told something I didn't want to hear about myself and I experience an introspective loss so to speak and I have to go through these stages of grief. I often times get stuck in a place of anger and express it very defensively.
It is so hard for me to reach acceptance because of the pain I have to endure introspectively to get to a place of acceptance that I need to change something of me.
A lot of times I struggle accepting that I need to change because of the battle I have fought to destroy my insecurities for many years and to build up the idea that this is me and you have to accept it. Don't get me wrong; I don't fight change and I accept that I need to change, but it is the process of changing who I believe I am is what it hard.
I know that you need to change and that without change you don't grow, but does the process have to be so difficult?
Accepting the difficult process that comes with change will be the most difficult thing to accept.
Coming to a Place of Acceptance
Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
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