Cheating is never an easy thing to deal with and being in a relationship is already difficult; learning a person, staying motivated to be romantic and caring; sharing families, building dreams together, and bad breath; all of these things make a relationship tough. Out of no where you add cheating to the equation and you have Armageddon.
The thing that angers me the most about cheaters are their excuses:
"I didn't mean too,"
"I love you but you haven't been there for me,"
"It was an accident,"
"Life has just been hard and they were there for me,"
All of these are just the stupidest things you can hear, but I'm not here to talk about the excuses or the cheaters; it is time to talk about how to overcome.
Quick list to deal with or overcome being cheated on:
1. Don't blame yourself.
2. Refrain from trying to rationalize the cheating.
3. Wait until you're ready to hear the truth before asking the offender what happened.
4. Please don't think getting revenge will help you get over the hurt of being cheated on.
5. If you're going to forgive please forgive and don't keep bringing it back up.
6. If you know you'll be unable to forgive please don't hold on to the relationship.
7. Avoid trying to confront the cheaters in anger but confront them when you're able to handle it adult like and openly express your feelings.
8. Take some time to heal, even if you decide to stay don't put on a front, don't put on face, don't be in denial, take some time to heal.
9. Go back to loving you and understanding how you can be a better person and how you can move forward.
10. Pray and truly ask God to help you heal and learn to trust again.
I know that it may take a lot more than these steps to truly heal and be free from the pain of cheating, but don't let it stop you from living or turn you into something you're not.
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Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
1 comments:
I don't think it is that easy to forgive or let go as you have "nicely" outlined in your blog. It hurt me to my core when my lady cheated on me and I never felt complete. I haven't been able to let go and even though I've moved on I still feel the pain of her cheating. And trust is a whole other problem for me now. I ust don't think it is that easy.
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