Label as defined by the dictionary (I picked out the second and third definition) is 2. a short word or phrase descriptive of a person, group, intellectual movement, etc. 3. a word or phrase indicating that what follows belongs in a particular category or classification.
Why do we label? We do we label ourselves, our families (my closets cousin, my favorite brother), our friends (my best friend, my brother from another mother), our relationships (girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wives, lover); why do we label and do we live up to those labels.
I ask this question because I feel like the world of relationships have become only defined by the labels we give them, better still by the labels other people give to them. I am recently married, I am very happy and I truly feel complete by the woman who has decided to marry me. We are human beings, we are man and woman, we are lovers, we are friends, but most people often label us as an interracial couple. We identify with the "label" of being married and the label of being "committed", but we don't identify with the label interracial. We never have and I don't think we will. We do like the label "BEAUTIFUL COUPLE."
I guess this is coming from a strange place, but it actually came from watching polyamorous people be in relationship with one another. I'm watching the show Polyamory on Showtime and it is a great show. It has some nudity and sexual content, but I watch it because it gives a clue into the lives of people who seem to genuinely love one another and have these relationships that are full of love and (sex). However enriched it may seem these relationships are, it seemed that most of their lives/love has been classified by LABELS. I see these people try to prove to the world that there love is pure, but the label "polyamory or poly" seems to define them and the movement of their relationship.
Are labels necessary? Do they help progress the relationship and help the relationship become official?
Here's what I say...well I won't say it how I feel it, but FORGET LABELS! Be loved and have love.
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Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
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