When Did Sex Stop Being Important To Married People?

Note: This is just a post of my opinion. While I may include some facts or statistics, this post is just my opinion. Enjoy!

Before people got married they seemed to have  had a lot of sex! When they were just married they were having sex with one another. (Sin or no Sin they were doing the nasty.) They get married and it is no longer a sin to sex and boom nothing! I mean you never see individuals in movies or TV shows who are married say, "Oh my goodness we are having so much sex;" instead you hear people say we used to have an incredible sex life, but after we got married we just stopped. I have not seen or heard a clear justification as to why this happens, why making love for married people is no longer a top priority, why sex stopped being important to married couples?

Truly I am very confused by this, this to me is an extremely disturbing phenomenon. I know that people blame it on work, they blame it on stress, they blame the children, they blame it on the temperature of the house; everyone is blaming, but no one is trying to fix this. I am truly perplexed that you're married and now you have sex once a month, once every three months, once a year???

According to this quote below however this post right here may be irrelevant. One of my favorite sex experts Dr. Laura Berman says, "“Studies have found that married people have more sex than single people, and they also have more varied sex,” (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/13/marriage-sex_n_1422644.html) You can check out the good doctor on the OWN network In the Bedroom with Dr. Laura Berman. (I love her).

Dr. Phil.com says:

Married couples say they have sex an average of 68.5 times a year. That's slightly more than once a week. — Newsweek

Married people have 6.9 more sexual encounters per year than people who have never been married. — Newsweek

15 to 20 percent of couples have sex no more than 10 times a year, which experts define as a sexless marriage. — Newsweek

20 to 30 percent of men and 30 to 50 percent of women say they have little or no sex drive. — USA Today

25 percent of all Americans (a third of women and a fifth of men) suffer from a condition known as hypoactive sexual desire (HSD), which is defined as a persistent or recurring deficiency or absence of sexual fantasies or thoughts, or a lack of interest in sex or being sexual. — Psychology Today.

No matter what anyone is saying, whether you're having a lot of sex in your marriage (Yay you) or you're in a drought, the point I'm making is this, SEX IS IMPORTANT IN MARRIAGE!

If someone tells you that you don't need to have sex to have a happy marriage, I want you to LAUGH LOUDLY in there face and let them know that they can live in the darkness, but as for me and my spouse we are going to get our sex on. It is OK to romance your husband or wife, to touch each other, to kiss all over one another, to desire your husband's or wife's body, it is OK to make love to one another; to have hot sweaty sex, to get creative in the bedroom for one another, YES it is OK to have sex in your marriage and YES it is VERY important to have sex.

I guess the question was when did sex stop being important to married people? I believe when it stop being important to the people married to one another. No One Can Set the Tone for Your Marriage but YOU and YOUR SPOUSE! And that goes for what happens in your sex life!!!!

It stop being important when you stopped making it a priority! You can't put work, school, children, bills, etc.; as priorities and forget to make SEX a priority in your marriage as well. I'm not saying put it first, but I'm definitely saying not to put it last.

I'm going to do a blog on the benefits of sex and also some tips to light the sexual fire in the bedroom.

Bottom line: Married people don't stop making sex important in your marriage. It is very important. It helps connect you both to one another. It is more than just an orgasm or a climax (those are AWESOME), but it is also about the physical and spiritual connection to one another. It let's your spouse know that you want them and you care about pleasing them.

Please don't let sex stop being important in your marriage. Please.