When I got closer to becoming a husband officially was when I received the understanding of what it meant to truly be in love. I'm not saying that you have to get married to finally be in love, but I view marriage as the second ultimate commitment. You get a better understanding of being in love when you give your life to Christ and when you decide to commit your life to another person and it is a serious commitment.
The key to being in love is not the feeling, but rather the decision. The key lies in the decision to become committed to love, loving a person, deciding every single day to love the person your IN relationship with. "I have entered into covenant with Jesus and the Father and we are IN LOVE; we are COMMITTED and there for we are IN LOVE." "I love this person, I have romantic love for this person (Romantic Love includes Passion and Intimacy, but no commitment {Olson and Defrain}), I am in Fatuous Love with this person, (Fatuous Love has commitment and passion, but no intimacy {Olson and Defrain}), and I desire and will work for CONSUMMATE LOVE or love with commitment, passion, and intimacy {Olson and Defrain, 2003, Marriage and Families}.
When you say you're in love then you are saying you are PRESENT. You are in a state of consciousness with another person in whom you are committed to, passionate about, and have a level of intimacy with. You are AWAKE and you see clearly that being IN LOVE with them is being presently involved in the LOVE with the other person. You are not distracted by the attraction or infatuation with another person, but your focus is on loving the person you're in love with.
If you are in love with someone simply based on feelings, butterflies, sexual chemistry, puppy love, romantic love, etc; you are infatuated and not in love. But if you are conscious, committed, and connected to the person you love then you my friend are IN LOVE.
I am in love because I am committed to you. Commitment involves trust, honesty, dependability, and faithfulness. I am in love because I want to build these principles with you. Not only so, but I am also CONSCIOUS to being in love with you and I'm here, I am present, I am awake to this in love state mind, body, and soul.
You can fall in and out of infatuation and attraction, but to love doesn't stop and being in love is more than just a feeling, but being IN LOVE is a DECISION.
You may not agree with me, but I now understand that you can love someone and not be in love with them. I view it however much differently. When you're in love with someone it doesn't just fade away because it involves so much. We must get to a point where we just don't say things because it sounds good, but instead we understand the power of our words.
I'm conscious and aware of being in love with my wife. I love her, I'm in love with her, and I am infatuated with her.
Are you IN LOVE or are you infatuated?
What It Means to Be In Love Part II
By JoeWhat It Means to Be In Love Part II
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Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
4 comments:
I absolutely love this
I think being in love is those funny and bubbly feelings you get. They make you feel attracted to a person and you have passion. In love is where you want to be with a person always. Anything else is just well...sad.
@Mindy it could be those bubbly feelings and butterflies, but in love is much more powerful and deeper than feelings or infatuation, infatuation or attraction can fade or be rekindled, but to be in love is an all in or all out choice; a decision. I am consciously in love and loving you.
This was a really good post. I want to read more post like this.
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