Everyone needs space. I don't think there is no other way for me to start this conversation, EVERYONE NEEDS SPACE!!!
The first and logical reason everyone needs space, especially in dating and relationships, is that we were once SINGLE. Before you got into a relationship you were single! Simple right? I mean you had all the time when you were single to have space, to reflect, or hang out with friends; so it is only logical and I would dare say natural for you to want space from time to time.
I mean think about it when you were entering the crazy world of adolescence, having time for privacy was something you fought for. Then you discovered how to entertain and enjoy being with yourself. You learned how to mellow out in your own space. This is something that we tend to forget when we start looking for a relationship or dating, and then when we get in a relationship we crave space, but we are unable to ask for it or we are so caught up that we forget to take it.
Everyone needs that time to rebuild your sense of singleness. I've learned whether you're in a serious relationship or you are married, you both are still single individuals who are committed to one another. So if you are still single individuals, then you need that space to regain or replenish your sense of self. When you do that, I believe you become a better whole for your better half.
Getting space isn't ignoring your spouse, mistreating them, disrespecting them, or time for you to date/see other people. Getting space is simply telling yourself and your spouse that I just need some time to be me. I still care about you, I love you, or whatever, but I just need sometime to reflect. And believe me if the relationship is one of mutual understanding, love, romance, and that spark; you won't want to be away from them for too long and the same goes for them.
It is dangerous to make anyone your all or for us to use a relationship to validate who we are. It is good to get space for a number of reasons, I just hope we recognize that we all need space, and asking for space isn't always a indirect way to let you know that it is over!!!
Make time for yourself, even in relationships and dating...get rid of that Dating PTSD!
Dating PTSD (8/11/2009)- When You Need Space
By JoeDating PTSD (8/11/2009)- When You Need Space
Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
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You still didn't tell us how to ask for space!!!!! Give us detail!
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