Can you really turn a hoe into a housewife? Well to be fair let's make this statement apply to both male and female--Can you really turn a hoe into a lifelong companion? The answer is no, unless the person in question wants to change their life and change their ways, then it maybe possible for the person to become a lifelong companion. To be clear though, you can't turn a person who is unwilling to change who they are into something new. (The keyword in that sentence is YOU). We have to stop assuming God's role and try to change people ourselves. God is the only one who can change people and it is only after they ALLOW Him to change them.
I also really just put hoe in the sentence to catch your eyes and get you to read this, but at the same time and for some people, hoe is the appropriate word. I'm really speaking to my single brother's and sister's who are dating, shacking, co-habitating, or are in some type of serious relationship, but you both are talking about marriage. I'm talking to those individuals who know they are not ready for marriage, they feel pressured into being married, or they want to be married because it "sounds good." So if you feel any of these things and/or you also happen to be prone to wanting to have sex with more than one person for the rest of your life, you should probably not get married or approaching the subject of marriage at all. I mean if you have the normal marriage jitters; OK fine I'm not talking to you, but if you know you still want to party recklessly, you don't have time for commitment, or if marriage is just an excuse to cover up your "player" ways, you may not want to take the vows or make so serious of a commitment.
Marriage wasn't designed to END!!! This is not my opinion, but it was God's original design for marriage. He even went so far to say in Mark 10:6-12-- "But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery." So if God said it, then it isn't just my opinion. Now my opinion is that marriage shouldn't be entered into if divorce is an option for you. I also feel you shouldn't enter into marriage if you're not willing to respect your husband or your wife. You shouldn't get married if you are selfish and you enjoy being selfish. If you want to sleep with other people, flirt endlessly, and live your life like the serial bed breaker or make claims for mattress insurance; you maybe shouldn't get married. I can go on and on, but the truth of the matter is, no one should be coerced into marriage, forced into marriage, should marry for fame or fortune; say no to marriage if you're not sure you want the person for a lifetime or could be committed to them forever, say no to marriage if you want to come and go as you please, say no to marriage if you know their is no real love between the two of you (I know some people will argue feelings will come, but you know the difference between being in love with someone and just tolerating them so you won't be alone. If you feel this way don't get married please), say no to marriage if you just want to be married because all the people around you are married, say no to marriage if you can't commit to God and your future spouse.
So whether you want to be a doorknob for the rest of your life, or you want to be forever a bachelor, or maybe you realize that the one you're with isn't the one you want to be with; I just need you to realize that YOU SHOULDN'T GET MARRIED. I mean you will be saving the world from another broken marriage, unhappy spouse, or divorced destroyed children. It is OK to say no if you know you don't want to commit yourself mind, body, and soul. Don't get caught in the hype, be honest, and don't get married if you still want to be a HOE.
1 Corinthians 7:33- "But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife."
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Marriage Talks- You Shouldn't Get Married If You Still Want To Be A Hoe
Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
2 comments:
Awesome post! I think that's very true about changing someone who is unwilling to change. I've had the unfortunate opportunity to see two marriages fail or at least crack within the last year. The wives that I spoke to have said that they have tried everything to get their husbands more involved in their marriage but were unsuccessful. It makes me wonder what made them get married in the first place.
J! I know I've been away for some time now but it looks like you've been busy!! The layout has changed and the posts are even better! I like! I just wanted to drop you a line and let you know I see you doing your thing!! Thumbs up! :)
P.S. I suppose I'll get back around to posting one day!
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