Someone please tell me what the butterflies are when you first start falling for a person. Where do they come from? Why do they form in the pit of your stomach when you see the person you like or are in love with? Are they really butterflies or is it gas? Whatever they are, they let you know that you are really feeling a person, you get excited, nervous, sweaty, anxious, hear-the-love-songs-playing-in-your-head whenever they are around, send you a text, an email, a Facebook post, or whatever.

You also get these butterflies the first time you kiss your significant other, the one your talking too, seeing, hanging with, or however you label the relationship. The fact is not the name, but its the butterflies that you get. It's like it makes the first kiss all the more exciting when those little bastards are swimming in your stomach and drinking the nectar in your heart, while you two in the real world are tasting the honey of each other's warm and gentle kiss. (Might be different for some people, but I want to think of the first kiss as honey and gentle LOL). These butterflies last for awhile and then all of the sudden...they're no longer there.

What does it mean when they leave? Does it mean your comfortable with the person? Does it mean that the excitement of the relationship no longer exist? Or does it mean that it was really just a bad case of gas? What happened to the butterflies.

First I want to say that we sometimes don't have control on how our body responds to physical, emotional, and verbal stimuli. Also I want to point out that each person is different and that some people get the butterflies and some never do. The most important thing I want you to get out of this Dating PTSD post is that YOU HAVE TO WORK HARD TO KEEP THE EXCITEMENT AND ENTHUSIASM IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP AFTER THE GROUNDWORK HAS BEEN LAID!!! If you don't you'll be spending your whole life getting in and out of relationships just trying to grab a hold of your butterfly moments/feelings.

OK so you're asking me how right??? Well first I want to start off with an old saying: "Do what you did to get the person to keep them." I know it sounds so easy, but this can be difficult and that's why the next saying is: "Don't ever get TOO comfortable." Of course I'm not saying to be insecure, bothersome, smothering, etc., but I am saying to never get too comfortable in your relationship that you are no longer ROMANTIC, FLIRTY, SEXY, CREATIVE, LOVING, KIND, COMPASSIONATE, PASSIONATE, and THOUGHTFUL. Also you have to remember that "Relationships TAKE WORK." We must learn how to make the work fun, exciting, and create the butterfly moments for ourselves. Empower yourself to create the butterfly moments.

So if you're feeling like you want the butterflies to come back into your thoughts and feelings for your boo; then create them, remember what made you fall for them, be romantic, be daring, and be honest within yourself-IF YOU'RE NOT WILLING TO DO THE WORK, DON'T WASTE THE OTHER PERSON'S TIME OR ENERGY.

Also listen to some love songs to jump start the little buggers to get the feeling again LOL.

Dating PTSD...You can overcome it!!!

John 3:16- For God so LOVED the World that He GAVE His one and only SON. That Whosoever Believes in Him Shall not PERISH, but will have EVERLASTING LIFE.

I do not have the ability to wake up in the morning. It is God that wakes me up because He loves me.

I'm grateful to Him because of HIS love that I do not deserve.

I want to be like HIM

GOD IS LOVE

It amazes me that God loves me so much that He would give His only son to die for not just me, but the entire world.

I love Him so much and sometimes I forget to show people the me He wants me to be. To be more like Him in everything I do is such a challenge, but His Love is still there.

He doesn't turn His back on me when I do wrong, when I hurt Him, and when I hurt others.

God is love.

He breathes life into me...

He cares for me and my loved ones...

He is my joy...

He loves me...

Get to know Him...

Entry 15-

As the title suggest I honestly have nothing new to report. I'm still celibate and contrary to my own popular belief, I'm OK with it.

I'm actually enjoying not feeling guilty. I mean I'm not having sex outside of marriage and I'm not guilty. The guilt wasn't or isn't the main reason why I've decided to walk in celibacy, but it played a major part in the decision. I just got tired of saying I was living for God, but behind closed doors I was pleasing my flesh.

Don't get me wrong I still struggle with the lust, especially the lust of the eyes. I also have a hard time gaining control of my secret thoughts. Much prayer is needed for me.

Honestly besides the carnal pleasure, the intimacy is what I miss the most. (Won't get into that to deep).

I was reading in a book by Myles Monroe called Single, Married, Separated, and Life After Divorce and one of the things he said was, "If an unmarried lifestyle is not for you (I'm paraphrasing) then you should ask God to prepare you for marriage. You must be single first, single meaning a whole, separate, and unique being with your own opinions and who makes their own decisions. You are ready for marriage when you don't need to be married to make you a WHOLE person."

I know the single lifestyle is not what I want to choose for the rest of my life, but I know I need it to first focus completely on GOD first, second I still need to work on becoming a whole, separate, and unique person, thirdly I need to understand GOD's plan for my single life and also His plan for marriage.

I pray I will stay strong in my decision to be celibate and I pray that if you read this you will make the decision to live for Christ in heart, mind, body, and soul.

Get to know Christ.

And keep me in prayer... Celibacy...

At first glance of the previews for this week's episode it looked like some drama would fill the air. To my disappointment it was more like kindergarten antics and everyone seemed to be hating on Devyn for being a player.

Sad to say the guys in the house are worse then the women. They are so bored with themselves that they can't even make forced drama entertaining LOL. OK I'm being hard on them, because I really think they are cool people...for the most part. This is just a major let-down after a great Real World: Hollywood and the THE ISLAND Oh man that was a great Challenge. I can't wait to see Brianna from Hollywood on a Challenge.

I'm starting to miss the Real World: Austin too. Alright Brooklyn season I saw the previews of next week show I hope things don't get too bad for the dude that was in the army.

Here are some Answers people have shared with me concerning my post Questions About Love???

Answers By A Lady Named E/Knee
1. Can you honestly date and fall in love with a friend?
I think yes because a friendship, love, honesty, communication and trust are the foundation for a great relationship. It is bad when you break up and it can be really awkward.

2. Is there a difference between love and being in love?
Of course. As Christians, we should love all people as God does. But being in love is a deeper emotion and affection.

3. Can I not like someone, but still love them?Yes. Example family members. You love them unconditionally but you may not like them or the things that they do.

5. Is love complicated or do we make it complicated?
I think that we make too much of it. Society has made a big deal and complicated what love should be or be what love should look like. If you just genuinely love wholeheartedly, it can be simple.

7. Are you in love with someone? Yes, unfortunately

9. Can you ever be completely committed to someone mind, body, and soul? I never have but I hope I can one day

10. Is forgiving someone an act of love? I believe so. I think it shows someone that you love them more than being right or judging them.

11. Do you love with your heart or with your mind? Both

14. Are you lacking something if you do not love? Yes, you are sheltering your life and not taking a chance to be truly happy.

19. How do you know that you're in love? When you would do ANYTHING for a person especially outside of your box and comfort zone. Also, when you get butterflies in your stomach when you are in their presence.

21. What is more important to say you love someone or to show them you love them? I think it is equally important. You can't say it and not show because then you are lying and you shouldn't show it and not say it. It is still nice to hear it.

24. Do you know what unconditional love feels like? Yes the love I have for my sister. It will NEVER CHANGE NO MATTER WHAT!!

26. Can animals express love? Yes, I know that my dog loves and appreciates me by her actions. She is so excited when she sees and acts sad when I am gone. Some animals get sick when loose their loved ones.

27. Are you in love right now? Yes but don't want to be

30. What is the greatest love movie ever? The Notebook!!!!!!!!
Answers by Classmate from CUC

1. Can you honestly date and fall in love with a friend? I can't once I placed u in the friend zone there is no turning back.

2. Is there a difference between love and being in love? Yes...U can defintely Love a person without being in LOVE with them!

3. Can I not like someone, but still love them?YEs, I have a couple that fit in this category.5. Is love complicated or do we make it complicated? We make it complicated because we expect to much from others

6. Can love conquer everything? YES7. Are you in love with someone? HEll NO8. Does sex equal love? NO 9. Can you ever be completely committed to someone mind, body, and soul? YES10. Is forgiving someone an act of love? YES

11. Do you love with your heart or with your mind? both 12. Can love change? Yes13. Which is the most important type of love? UNCONDITIONAL14. Are you lacking something if you do not love? YES

15. Who started this thing called love? JESUS

16. Why is love so important? IDK... I just wish I can hurry up and get married ao I can have BABIES!!!19. How do you know that you're in love? Good question!! I can't get the person off my mind and I smile evertime I think of him!!!30. What is the greatest love movie ever? The Notebook!! HAnds Down.....

Answers by my Friend/Classmate

The ans. to # 15 is God!!! Because God 1st love us!!! (Sorry not sure what scriptures but I know I read it somewhere) and being that God loved us, he made us in the image of him. Therefore, we are creatures that have an innate ability to love!!! and I think I want to go after # 21 as well cause it will connect…give me a min. and I’m bring this thing together…So I believe you can’t have one without the other…You need to hear the words, but it’s just as important to see the action of love!! so God 1st love us…words, his actions, he made us in the likeness of him…For God so loved the world…words, but his action, He gave his only begotten son…(Folks that sound like some love to me!!! ..lol)

I’m not a preach but I know God loved us enough to send his son and Jesus Loved us enough to come save us from our sins…Jesus came from heaven to save a sinner like me. Wow, that’s love!!! he was sent though a woman who clearly loved and respected herself,(As Women/Men it’s important that we love our self 1st before we can start truly loving others), She also loved a man but never had relations or even got a lil piece (see you don’t have to be less than a lady to find real love)…but God was pleased with her. Words… and before she knew it she was carry the son of man … actions… (now that’s some real business before pleasure)


Mary could have been stoned...(love can have the potential to hurt, but you have to keep the faith and know that God will never leave you nor forsake you)..Mary knew that God wasn’t gona let her be taking out by some stones…so he soften Joseph heart and he was able to marry, Mary…Therefore we have the ability to love, and we have examples of father and son love, mother and son love, love of self and husband and wife love which are all important love relationships and don’t forget love thy neighbor n thy friends they need love too… when you love hard let the action show the signs…wow writing this jus help me realize I’m not loving to my full potential and not all my word are shown though my actions but don’t trip he aint through with me yet!!!….



Answers By 2Sense:

K, lotta questions=lotta answers....Before I start, these answers reflect only my opinion and conclusions drawn from personal experieces. Here we go!1. Yes, your lover should be your friend. Although some say they are two seperate things, friends don't have to be lovers but lovers should be friends. 2. Yes, the difference between love and being in love is infatuation.3. Yes, we should love one another even when we like each other. 4. ? lol5. WE make it complicated.

6. Love conquers all.7. Nope, not in love but I love a lot of ppl.8. NO, two seperate things. Sometimes we have trouble seperating the two. If u cannot, u should just abstain. I personally would just rather not seperate them so I abstain. But if you must indulge, realize sex and love are two totally seperate ideas. One does not necessarily exist just because of the other. 9. Hm, the problem arise with the word, "completely." I don't believe it is humanly possible to completely do anything....10. Yes.

11. Your heart and mind are linked. It may begin in your heart and travel to your mind or vice versa.12. Love is love--always.13. Agape.14. God is love.15. For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten son...you know the rest.16. b/c God is love and love conquers all.17. unconditionally18. yes.19. in love= obsession/infatuation20. God21. both are equally important22. Possibly, idk.23. ?

24. I know God so, yes.25. both, a feeling expressed through action. But Webster labels it a verb, I think. So, I guess that makes it an action.26. Maybe, maybe not. Idk.27. Please refer to #7.28. Infatuation.29. No, if it's a movie then it's not real life although the movies are supposed to be exaggerated reflection of real life.30. Love Jones, hands down!

I HATE BEING ANGRY! I HATE THAT I LET PEOPLE HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE ME ANGRY! NO ONE SEEMS TO BELIEVE THAT I WON'T LOSE CONTROL, BUT WHEN I DO IT PUSHES ME EVEN FURTHER OFF THE EDGE! I HATE BEING ANGRY! I HATE TO BE HURT AND LIED TOO, ABUSED, MISTREATED, MANIPULATED; ESPECIALLY BY THE PEOPLE I LOVE! I'M DONE LETTING PEOPLE SET MY ATMOSPHERE! GOD SHOULD AND WILL BE THE ONLY PERSON WHO WILL HAVE CONTROL OVER ME!

I WILL NOT LET YOU CONTROL ME ANY LONGER!

I WILL NOT LET YOU HAVE CONTROL OVER ME!

I WILL NOT LET YOU HAVE CONTROL OVER ME I AM IN CONTROL I MAKE THE DECISION I MAKE THE DECISION I MAKE THE DECISION I MAKE THE DECISION. I MAKE THE DECISION I MAKE THE DECISION I MAKE THE DECISION I MAKE THE DECISION. I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU.

I SHOULDN'T HAVE LOST CONTROL BECAUSE YOU DON'T CARE! I SHOULDN't HAVE LOST CONTROL BECAUSE YOU DON'T CARE. YOU NEVER CARED ABOUT ANYBODY BUT YOURSELF. YOU SMILED IN MY FACE IN THE MIDST OF MY PAIN! YOU DON'T CARE YOU DON'T CARE! YOU DON'T CARE! YOU DON'T CARE! I HATE YOU AND YET I FORGIVE YOU! I STRUGGLE WITH BOTH OF MY PRINCIPLES! I WANT TO HATE YOU AND YET I FORGIVE YOU I FORGIVE YOU I FORGIVE YOU I FORGIVE YOU I FORGIVE YOU AND YET I WANT TO HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I FORGIVE YOU WHY WHY WHY WHY DOES IT FEEL SO MUCH BETTER TO FORGIVE YOU????? WHEN MY FLESH CRAVES TO HATE YOU!!!! I HATE YOU BUT I FORGIVE YOU! YOU ARE GOING TO HURT ME AGAIN BUT I FORGIVE YOU! I'M SO ANGRY BECAUSE I LET YOU HURT THE ONES I LOVE YOU HURT THE ONE I LOVE! I HATE YOU I HATE YOU BUT I MUST FORGIVE YOU I DO FORGIVE YOU!

I HATE YOU

BUT I FORGIVE YOU!

I just had to write this out.....

John 3:16- For God so LOVED the world. That He GAVE His ONLY BEGOTTEN SON. That WHOSOEVER believes in HIM shall not PERISH, but will have EVERLASTING LIFE.

God is love.

Fred Hammond has a song that says: (Remember Fred Hammond wrote this song):

"Not Just What You Say (repeat x3)

Then we can act like we know what love is.

Not just what you say (It's mostly what you do)

Not a game that you play (To keep the winning hand with you)

Not just wasting time (With empty words that don't mean much)

Not just how you feel (When others need your tender touch)

So can you take out some time (To help somebody else in need)

And when this is done(THE LOVE OF GOD IS TRULY SEEN)

Then above all (We need to COVER and FORGIVE)

Then we can act like we know what love is.

Love is all all in all

FORGIVING faults great and small.

Patient and Willing to

Cover me Cover you

Love is Kind don't you know

And will not Seek it's Own

GOD IS LOVE FOREVER MORE

ACT LIKE YOU KNOW GO OUT AND HANDLE YOURS!!!"

God is Love.

God LOVED US SO MUCH HE GAVE HIS SON FOR US. JESUS CHRIST DIED FOR OUR SINS! HE DID IT BECAUSE HE LOVED US.

Love is patient, kind, does not keep record of being wronged.

Forgiveness is an act of LOVE.

Sacrifice is an act of LOVE.

LOVE DOES NOT SEEK IT'S OWN.

Love is not motivated by the ID.

God is love.

Romans 5:8 says "But God commendeth his LOVE toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us".

Love doesn't need a condition in order to be expressed.

God is LOVE.

You can't know what true love is unless you learn from the ONE who created and expressed

LOVE FIRST.

God is LOVE.

CHRIST IS LOVE!!!

Jesus LOVES YOU!!!!

No matter if you believe in HIM or NOT- Jesus still loves you.

God is LOVE!!!!

GOD IS LOVE!!!!

Love does not boast!!!

God is LOVE!!!

Couldn't have a Happy Valentine's Day without letting you know who the TRUE UNCONDITIONAL LOVER WAS!!!

GOD IS LOVE!!!

God let your LOVE RAIN DOWN ON ME!!!

Two of my friends are getting married today. I just want to wish them a Happy Valentine's Day and a Happy Wedding Day. I just hope they know that Wedding Anniversary Gifts and Valentine's Day gifts are not one in the same LOL. Unless they want it to be. Again I just want to wish them a Happy Wedding Day, but I pray for God to bless their MARRIAGE!!!! Wedding equals one day MARRIAGE equals FOREVER.

Just some tips for the Marrying folk lol:

KEEP GOD FIRST IN YOUR MARRIAGE!!! LET HIM BE ALL UP IN YOUR BUSINESS!!!

MARRIAGE IS STILL HONORABLE IN GOD'S EYES and the MARRIAGE BED UNDEFILED!!!
DO WHAT YOU DID TO GET THEM TO KEEP THEM!!

REMEMBER YOU ARE MARRIED TO A PERSON AND NOT A ROBOT! THAT MEANS THEY STILL THINK, FEEL, AND HAVE EMOTIONS!!!

LEARN TO FORGIVE AND FORGIVE TO LEARN!!!

MAKE IT HARD FOR THE CLEAN UP MAN OR WOMAN TO COME INTO YOUR HOUSE!!!

DON'T LET A DAY GO BY WITHOUT TELLING OR SHOWING YOUR LOVE FOR YOUR LIFE LONG COMPANION!!!

PREPARE TO WORK ON LOVE AND MARRIAGE!!!!

PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBAND or YOUR WIFE!!!!

BE CREATIVE at least SOME OF THE TIME!!!!

MAKE TIME FOR LOVE!!!

TAKE TIME FOR LOVE!!!

FILL IN THE BLANKS TOGETHER!!!!

Happy Valentine's Day to everyone. I know for some you're making sure that the reservations are set, flowers are delivered, hair is nice done or for the fellas a fresh cut, you've got your boo, and your ready to hit the town. I know for others this is just another day in the entire year you make sure your significant other knows how much you love them. You don't have to wait for a commercialized holiday to be romantic or loving because you do it all the time; today is just the one day where if you choose to be over the top you can. To those of us who are single or not in a relationship, you maybe chilling with friends, you may have a date with a friend, or you're going to use this day as a treat to yourself, enjoy it. And finally to those who loathes Valentine's Day and can't wait till it is over, please I beg you please don't fall out of love with romance or let it die.

Romance is defined as being OK their are many definitions to romance, but I like this one the most- "to court or woo romantically; treat with ardor or chivalrousness".

In my opinion romance is purposeful actions to make another person feel, think, and know that you care about them. It is the partial absence of self-gratification (I say partial because you do get some satisfaction from making the other person feel special) to ensure that (your significant other, friend, girlfriend, boyfriend, intimacy companion, lover) feels special, loved, get butterflies, and knows you're thinking about them.

I also believe that romance should be reciprocated, but that is not the goal of one who is truly trying to be romantic.

Romance can be experienced between two people who are not "in love" or in a committed relationship. Romance is often a way to show people that you know how to be thoughtful, creative, passionate, and aiming to please.

Romantic gestures should be wanted by the other person and the one being romantic should have an understanding of the persons wants, needs, and desires. Don't force romance on people that don't want it, and don't give away to people who don't desire your time or affections.

Romance should not be confused with stalker tendencies. Romance's goal is to make a person feel loved, appreciated, and wanted. Stalker tendencies make a person feel worried, afraid, and possibly upset. This goes back to the person you're being romantic with wanting the romantic gestures to come from you, or you having knowledge of what they like, want, and need.

Take time and set the mood. (And if you're married then you must definitely take the time and enjoy this romantic gesture. The possibilities are endless when you are married).

Those receiving the romantic gestures show that you truly appreciate the gestures, give hints to what you like, want, and desire, and be ROMANTIC AT TIMES TOO!!!

I think that is all I have to say about romance for now.

Happy Valentine's Day to everyone.

Time for Me to go out and make her smile!!! ;)

(Photo taken from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_United_States_of_Tara)

Ok I've been watching all morning this really cool show called The United States of Tara. Long story short the woman in the show has DID formerly known as Multiple Personality Disorder. The show is so cool and it shows the family dynamic of how a mental health issue not only affects the person who is suffering with it, but it also shows how it affects the entire family. The woman aka Tara has three alters or alter ego's: One's a man, one's a Mrs. Cleaver type, and the third is eternally 16-years-old. The show is so cool and of course it goes along with the some of the things I'm learning in class. (Buck, Alice, and T) are the names of her alters.

Just wanted to share that with the world.

I think LOVE or being IN LOVE can make you lose your mind or sense of self.

And do you think or believe DID is real?

1. Can you honestly date and fall in love with a friend?

2. Is there a difference between love and being in love?

3. Can I not like someone, but still love them?

4. Is love not the like which is unlikely not likely to love?

5. Is love complicated or do we make it complicated?

6. Can love conquer everything?

7. Are you in love with someone?

8. Does sex equal love?

9. Can you ever be completely committed to someone mind, body, and soul?

10. Is forgiving someone an act of love?

11. Do you love with your heart or with your mind?

12. Can love change?

13. Which is the most important type of love?

14. Are you lacking something if you do not love?

15. Who started this thing called love?

16. Why is love so important?

17. How do you show someone that you love them?

18. Do you believe in Love Rain?

19. How do you know that you're in love?

20. What is love?

21. What is more important to say you love someone or to show them you love them?

22. Has there ever been a person who didn't love someone?

23. How do you handle unrequited love?

24. Do you know what unconditional love feels like?

25. Is love a feeling or an action?

26. Can animals express love?

27. Are you in love right now?

28. What makes you fall in love?

29. Does love in movies exist in real life?

30. What is the greatest love movie ever?

I haven't blogged in a while, but I've been wondering why text messaging is the new way to express love, break-up, or whatever. I know it's the age of technology, and texting, emails, and video conversations are the upgrades to face to face encounters and letters, but come on people what about that intimate contact with a person.

I mean I guess its OK to express love through text, but not to break up with a person. And I feel that it is only OK to express love through texting only if you can also express it face to face.

Then again maybe I'm wrong and old fashion, but I think that the Internet and phones have made people even worse at communicating, which mainly consists of listening and reading nonverbal messages (and also a little talking LOL-YEAH RIGHT LOL).

I mean I love text messaging, but I'm that old-fashioned romantic. I like to express love to my woman's face. I mean during the day (You're beautiful or I Love You Text) is OK to keep the fire burning and keeping you on her mind (Men if you don't know anything about this or how to do this without being annoying LEARN it might keep the CLEAN UP man out of your woman's house...).

So I say to all you Valentine-going-on-dates-people-who-are-in-love-or-whatever to make sure you keep your face to face communication/love expression skills up to par, text/email when necessary (especially if you're in a long distance relationship), and please have the courage to break up with a person to their face and not over a text, email, or when they are at work thinking about you...

Love Rain fall down on me

Is Valentine's Day for couples or a day set aside to promote/participate in loving someone or loving everyone. Is it a Holiday for lovers/couples/married folk/dating folk or is it for everyone?

I personally feel that the Valentine's day is commercialized for couples and not essentially for single people or people who aren't dating. I mean of course I'm all for empowering singles and parents who buy their kids chocolates and stuff for Valentine's day, but for real it is a romantic day set apart for the world to be romantic (Go out on dates and buy gifts, or the one day of the year to get wild!!! LOL)

So far I'm the only person who thinks this so I'm going to throw it out there to all of you. Is Valentine's Day for couples or for everyone?

You be the judge...