Are you in a relationship and you just feel like you were trapped into it? Do you ever feel like you were bamboozled, tricked, and manipulated by the person you are in a relationship with? Do you feel stuck or feel like there is no way out? If you have this feeling then maybe it is time for an evaluation of your relationship.
First you have to ask yourself why you feel this way. What has sparked this sudden quagmire? Is it unhappiness with the relationship? Could it be that you are unsure of what you’re feeling? Is it just a phase? Or do you genuinely feel like you were manipulated into being in a relationship with this person?
Secondly you have to sit down and talk to the person about your feelings. Caution: You might not want to tell the person that you feel like they trapped you, but maybe after some careful, self-evaluation, you can honestly tell them what you are truly feeling. Being honest with what you’re feeling may help you to overcome this feeling and possibly salvage your relationship, or reveal to you and your significant other what you may need to do about your relationship. Don’t hold things end or you may end up sabotaging the relationship and the person’s feelings.
Thirdly, you should try to avoid PAEB or passive-aggressive emotional breakdown. In other words, don’t try to inadvertently or in a round-about way get the other person to end the relationship. You shut off your emotional attachment to the person or become distant and then blame them. You purposely start arguments, nag about the smallest things, break communication, stop intimacy, treat them bad, blame them for the relationship trouble, or cause confusion; all in the name of trying to break them down emotionally so that they will break up with you and you won’t have to deal with your feelings.
Finally if you can’t get past feeling trapped or you truly feel that you were trapped into the relationship; seek counseling, guidance, and instruction from God, from a trustworthy pastor or minister, a relationship counselor, or some form of therapist that may help you gain insight.
I can’t imagine that feeling like someone has trapped you is a good feeling, but not saying or doing anything about your feelings, or trying to get the person to quit isn’t an effective way to cope.
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Relationship Talks: Do You Ever Feel Trapped?
Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
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