Alright I am in a big debate whether or not it is important in a relationship to be 100 percent honest with one another.
Can people ever be 100 percent honest with themselves?
Then can they be 100 percent honest with the person they're in a relationship with?
I've learned from experience that we can dish out truth very well, but we sometimes don't handle the truth very well when it is dished out to us.
Can we handle the truth? I say that we can handle the truth, but only when we realize what the truth is for us. It's like a book can tell us how good kissing is, but we won't believe it until we experience good kissing for ourselves. Or the old saying that God is good, because I know Him for myself. Some of us heard our grandparents or parents for years saying that God is good, which is a TRUTH, but until we got to know His goodness for ourselves we saw it as something that only our parents or our elders could experience. I believe that it is the same for the truth coming from your girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse, or partner. You want them to be 100 percent honest with you, but you hear the truth and you can't accept it or you get angry about it. For me I get angry when I get the 100 percent truth at the last minute or when it is too late. That bothers me to no end and that's when I'm unable to handle the truth...why couldn't I be told from the beginning.
It is also hard for me to hear the truth about my flaws or more specifically character flaws. Even though it maybe 100 percent truth about a flaw of mine it is very difficult for me to accept it. Anyone else find it difficult to handle the truth about your flaws. (I think what makes the truth about this subject a little easier for people is the delivery of the truth. I mean no one wants their character attacked do they?)
Man do relationships work better when there is some lies, some avoidance of the truth, avoidance of some issues, etc. Do relationships work when you are only 50 percent honest? Do they work better if you hold some truth back and push some truth forward? Should there be a balance in relationships between truth and lies? What is good to lie about? And what is bad to tell the truth about? Does truth equal good always? Or is the sum of truth equal to the root of the truth the person will accept?
I'm not just writing this for my health people I need some help with this. Should a relationship be clothed in 100 percent honesty or is that just foolishness.
OK I will let you in on a secret: I think it is very wise to be 100 percent honest with a person, but with limits and boundaries. There is a time and place for everything.
You be the judge....
100 Percent Honesty???
Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.
1 comments:
Wow ok you have me thinking... Yes I think honesty is very important and can either make or break a relationship. Yet I agree there is a time and a place for honesty. Say the dress your girlfriend is wearing looks horrible on her tell her at home so she can change before you go out. Don't tell her when you are already out amongst your friends (does that make sense?). Ok that prob doesn't make sense I mean you could have different taste. Be honest but think before you are: is this going to hurt her feelings? Does this really matter in the grand scheme of things? In 5 years will this matter? ~~~ You have me questioning myself now JWriter lol ~~~~~~ Being honest does not mean your girlfriend needs to know every little detail of everything you think but on all important matters yes honesty is always best! :) GREAT POST!
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