Is Love Overrated?

Is love overrated is the question that I present to you the readers? Well first let us define what overrated means:

According to the dictionary overrated- is to rate or appraise too highly; overestimate.

Well if we use this definition I don't think love is overrated...I believe love is underestimated and abused.

Hey look I know that most if not all of us have been hurt by the ones we love and the ones we were/are in love with. Hell you're reading the blog of a man who was once very cynical guy when it came to love, but I have been redeemed and my faith has been placed back in love, romance, and relationships.

I mean I realized a couple of things: 1. There is an example of what true love is and you can find that in the UNCONDITIONAL LOVE God shows and has shown towards us. 2. Love isn't what hurts us, instead it is the people that we are in love with or that we show love too that hurts us. So often we try and blame the act or the power of love to us hurting instead of understanding that people hurt one another, but love can conquer anything. 3. Loving someone doesn't mean giving them all of you in one nicely wrapped package, instead to love someone is to love them with your actions and not just your feelings, your beliefs, or your desire for them to love you the way that you love them. You can't give someone your all and then want it all back when they hurt you. <------That one stings a lot and often time you can't get that piece of you back once everything is over. People it is very dangerous to give a fallible person all of you because they don't have the full potential, nor the divinity to care for all you are. Most times we are unable to maintain all of who we are and have to turn it over to something or someone else, i.e. God, drugs, going crazy, being a workaholic, partying, alcohol, etc. 4. Love is patient. That one really does not require an explanation.

By no means am I saying that our loved ones hurting us is OK, but we can't become so self-absorbed in self-pity that we give up on love, hate on those that have found love, or try and bring down the love of people around us. We can't neglect loving ourselves because someone we loved hurt us. And believe me I've been hurt bad by FAMILY, FRIENDS, GIRLFRIENDS, and PEOPLE in general. Readers I was at a point where I was so hurt by loving hurtful people that I laid in bed and asked God to bring death my way. So I know a little thing or too about wanting to give up on love.

But God spoke to me and he revealed to me that He continues to love me despite the numerous and I MEAN NUMEROUS times I have hurt Him. He told me that He was no stranger to being hurt, used, and abused by the people He loves. At that very moment I broke down and asked God for forgiveness. I humbled myself and apologized to God for doubting the gift of LOVE that He has given to us.

Then I also thought about what it would be like for me if I never loved anyone again or if I never had the chance to let myself fall in love with a woman ever again. I'm a true believer in man not being meant to live alone. (Not the state of being lonely because that happens within the human experience) No I don't believe man is meant to be alone in the sense of never knowing love or showing love or receiving love. For me not to know and share love is the state of being alone. This maybe extreme, but just think about it. Love is probably one of the most profound feelings we experience and anytime we don't participate in this thing call love, feeling love, knowing love, and falling in love; it seems like we are lacking in someway, we crash and we burn.

I don't think love is overrated, instead I believe that love is misinterpreted as lust, selfishness, and self-hatred. We really need to get our meanings and definitions of love together before we try and walk in love.

I Corinthians 13 is a good example of what love is...

Falling in love is beautiful, but being willing to deal with the possible damage of falling is the challenge and the ugly part.

Try not to fall in love with the dishonest...and don't work to make someone fall in love with you if you can't be honest with them or yourself.

Guard your heart, but don't let it become guarded to the point love can't find its way to it.

I heard someone say that you can't help whom you love, but I think you can choose wisely.

If love fails you give it another try...just be careful next time and pay attention to the signs.

Love always come with sacrifice. You're not truly loving someone if there is no sacrifice.

Falling in love consists merely in uncorking the imagination and bottling the common-sense. --Helen Rowland

You'll discover that real love is millions of miles past falling in love with anyone or anything.When you make that one effort to feelcompassion instead of blame or self-blame,the heart opens again and continues opening. --Sara Paddison

Falling in love is not an extension of one's limits or boundaries;it is a partial and temporary collapse of them. --M Scott Peck

Never frown...even when you're sad you never know when someone is falling in love with your smile. --Author Unknown