Dating PTSD (11/12/2008)- Going Back

Joe Wednesday, November 12, 2008 No Comment
How do you recover from dating your friend? Is it possible to go back to the friendship you once had; after a relationship with that person?

I don't have the absolute answer, but I can offer some from my perspective.

I think that it is possible, but here are some conditions:
  1. You both must want to be friends after deciding to break up!
  2. The relationship must have ended on good terms, or at least all bad blood should have been resolved.
  3. You both have to work on the friendship. (It can't be a one way street. Both people must work on maintaining the friendship, especially if the friendship was strong before).
  4. Hopefully you were still friends during the relationship. (Not as hard as people make it out to be).

Again this is not set in stone, nor does one intervention work for everybody, but it is important to note that friendships are still relationships that take (what's the word) WORK. Also friendships need to include:

  • HONESTY
  • COMMUNICATION
  • UNDERSTANDING
  • A DEGREE OF ACCEPTING THE PERSON FOR WHO THEY ARE AND NOT WHO YOU WANT THEM TO BE.
  • KINDNESS
  • PATIENCE
  • LOVE
  • WILLINGNESS TO FORGIVE (The cure all! I promise you LETTING GO is such a hard thing to do, but the results are PRICELESS)
  • FIGHT FOR YOUR FRIENDSHIPS

Is it possible for two people who were friends to date? I don't know you tell me.

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Joseph is a Licensed Graduate Social Worker in the Washington, DC area. Joseph is the author of the forthcoming book “Love Me Right or Not at All”, A Quick Guide to Loving Yourself and Others the Healthy Way. This book seeks to assist everyone who reads it to love with balance and give love to the right people. Joseph is striving to become an expert in the practice of relationship empowerment. He strives to build healthy, powerful, and well-balanced relationships in the lives of everyone who seeks after the knowledge, values, and skills Joseph has honed over the last ten years. Joseph is an aspiring Marriage and Family Therapist, but to also travel around the nation and hopefully the world, to spread the message that relationships can be simple, yet amazing if you put in the work. Relationships are vital to the human experience and often shape our mindsets, our personalities, and our environments. Knowing this, Joseph works to encourage not only those who believe in his skills, but also works passionately to build his knowledge and skills in the area of relationships to present the best of who he is both personally and professionally.

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