Zero Tolerance in A Relationship???

Is there such a thing as zero tolerance within a relationship? Is it possible to be in a relationship with another person and both of you absolutely don't tolerate any foolishness? I honestly don't think it is possible people. I mean some things should be rooted in the zero tolerance category: Physical, Emotional, Sexual, or Verbal abuse of any kind should never be tolerated in a relationship, drug use and abuse (in my opinion), excessive and dangerous alcohol abuse and use, no communication whatsoever, thoughtless and selfish lovemaking, purposeful financial abuse, and CHEATING!!!! Readers I understand that these things should have the principle of Zero Tolerance within them, but let's be honest even these very major issues are tolerated by many people in relationships around the world.

I mean what should you and shouldn't you tolerate? The little things your partner or spouse does that gets on your nerves should that be tolerated? The part of their personality that bothers you? Should you tolerate that in the name of love and relationships, or should you tell them it bothers you and then you leave them alone if they continue to be who they are? Should the negative things your friends say about your partner and spouse keep you from giving your all to them? Or should your friends opinion of them be the deciding factor in whether or not you love them or leave them alone.

Tell me please what things should be tolerated in a relationship and what shouldn't. Are there things about a person, what they do, what they don't do, how they treat us, or don't treat us; honestly what should and shouldn't be tolerated?

Is one person better than the other person in the relationship if one is more tolerant than the other person? Where is the list people? Dating experts out there please come and inform us of what makes the list of tolerable actions and actions that should never be overlooked.

I just got to thinking about this after reading something online in passing. This woman had a husband that was romantic, thoughtful, wrote love notes to her that was on her pillow in the morning, he gave her space, he sang to her, he provided, etc. The woman in the book said that she couldn't tolerate how "nice" he was too her. That sometimes she wanted to feel the passion of an argument or come home and not have to deal with him being so attentive. I was livid and I literally started yelling at the woman and was like, "What your dumb tail must want to come home and your husband floor you," "Perhaps you want to come home to an argument over who will do the dishes, or mop the floor; would that get your panties in a frenzy for you husband." Honestly I was in shock that she said she couldn't tolerate all of his attentiveness and thoughtfulness. I realize that after reading the rest of the story that there was more to it than him being "nice" and that she had deeper issues with her husband, but this was what she was able to bring to the surface or what she felt "comfortable" talking about. I still was upset though because some women and some men stay in relationships and TOLERATE some crazy stuff from their partner or spouse. All I'm asking is where is this list because I need to study it.

I honestly think the solution to this lies in open and honest communication between the two people in the relationship. That some realistic standards and expectations are set and if the other person makes a mistake or misses the mark, that there be a true and sincere apology and some true and sincere forgiveness.

I still think it is crazy that she wanted more arguments in her relationship for the sake of passion. That is crazy, because arguments are not fun at all. I'm just saying.

Zero Tolerance, people does it truly exist in any relationship? You be the judge...